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I am back here, after a three years battle, to thanks everyone here for being very helpfull during the this time. My dad sadly died at his 69, last august the first, just before the day we were waiting for: August 28, when he was going to turn 70.

Everything happens very quickly, or so we say. He was ok, but after starting chemo, he had a digestive bleeding that was never resolved and ended with disseminated intravascular coagulation. He was hospitalized for a month, always conscious, and he decide to go back home when he realized there were nothing to do. He was supposed to die after two or three days, because of the bleeding, but with us at home he was strong enough to last another month. His condition was not good, he lost his leg strength, hardly walk, and he was not independant anymore.

It was hard to see, but we were always together: his wife, my ten years old sister, my mom and me. We talk to him everything, and we felt very sad but he prepare us to that day, so we accept destiny.

Thanks everyone. Without this forum, this journey could be a lot harder.

My best wishes,

Oscar (always on behalf of Cesar, my dad).

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Darryl profile image
DarrylPartner

condolences

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olloreda in reply to Darryl

Thanks, Darryl!

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Tall_Allen

Having you there was undoubtedly a great source of his strength.

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olloreda in reply to Tall_Allen

Thanks, Allen!! You are one that I always read. A very importance source of information. I am trying to do so with another people in Venezuela.

I didnt say something: I didnt want to be there in the moment he pass, and I think he was "playing" hard, resisting, just because of me. When I realized that, I decided to go five days to my place (another city, after one month and a half with him). He agreed with me, because I had work to do and my fiancee was alone. Well, he didnt get up again from bed, he got worse and he died the day before I come back.

I think it was like an agreement. He didnt want me to experience that moment, and neither do I. We were too close, no doubt.

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Tall_Allen in reply to olloreda

I think you are right. I remember my sister telling my mother "It's OK to go now." Sometimes, they seem to be waiting for permission to leave.

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Lyubov

With sympathy, I send you wishes for your comfort & strength. May you precious Father Rest in Peace.

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olloreda in reply to Lyubov

Thanks! Amen

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Rob1053

He was so lucky to have you all!

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olloreda in reply to Rob1053

Thanks, made me laugh and cry. I can imagine him telling me so.

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KocoPr

RIP brother

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olloreda in reply to KocoPr

Thanks, Amen!

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Decktime

a long virtual hug to you and your family.

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Fiddler2004

So very sorry for your loss 🙏

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JohnInTheMiddle

May your Father's memory be for a blessing.

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Flash64

Sorry for your loss.

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Nusch

My sincerest condolences thx for sharing this with us. Your dad has a great family and all your caring, your support and your love made him feel safe and home. So he could do his finale step to the place we all will go - and be together then again.

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rosenjpj

Thanks for the Update. May his memory be a blessing.

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cpl901

🖤

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PSAed

May he rest in peace.

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john510185

Very sorry to hear this. Deepest condolences.

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quietcorner

🙏

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hopeful1956

Sending you gentle hugs. I'm so sorry for your loss.

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Cub49614

prayers for you and your family.🙏

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Warrior13

May his memory be eternal

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PeteLG

My deepest condolences from one of Cesar's brothers of the bonny blue ribbon.

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Lasered

So sorry to hear of your loss. Prayers for you and your family. 🙏

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MouseAddams

Peace and blessings to your family- your father had his family with him until he was ready to leave. And now the family have each other to celebrate his life. You all will carry him in your heart and he will always watch over you.

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turkeyjoe1

Sorry for your loss, prayers for your family.

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DesertDaisy

So very sorry for the loss of your father.

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StillDancing

All our love to all of you.❣️ May Dad rest in peace now.🙏

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larry_dammit

My only hope is I can be as brave as he was. So sorry to hear of your loss 🙏🙏

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Shamrock46

Sending you and your family prayers and my heartfelt condolences.

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London441

The love you shared comes through in your post. May you keep him close to your hearts always.

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Professorgary

So sorry for your loss. May God comfort you and your family.

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Teacherdude72

Deepest sympathies on your loss.

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Break60

RIP!

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strummer

so sorry for your loss. Your dad will watch over you.

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Blueribbon63

Tú padre tuvo mucha suerte al tenerlos a ustedes sus seres queridos a su lado para poder partir en paz. Siento mucho tú pérdida y la de tú familia. Él ahora está descansando en paz.

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olloreda in reply to Blueribbon63

Gracias!!

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FjSENC

Sorry for your loss 💔 condolences to his family and friends.

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j-o-h-n

to olloreda,

Your loss is Heavens gain.......I would imagine that by now your Dad, Cesar has adapted to wearing wings. Dios los bendiga.

j-o-h-n Sunday 11/12/2023 2:35 PM EST

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olloreda in reply to j-o-h-n

Amen!! Gracias!!

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Metaldraft

precious time and monumental bonding is on all us to bare you so gifted to have time spent sharing and exchanging compassion and synchronized love that last deep in time

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Pianodude

So sorry for your loss. Peace to you and your family.

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garyjp9

My deepest sympathies to you and your family. I am sure it was a great blessing for your father to be surrounded by family in his late stages. I should add that as my father was dying at home, with my mother and sister and me at his side, my mother told my sister and I that my father did not want to let go with us being present. We left, and the next day he died, with my mother present. So, your experience was not unique in this regard.

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olloreda in reply to garyjp9

Thanks for sharing...I think it was the same. He knew I did everything for his health...and we always thought he was going to be with his wife and my little sister in that moment, and so ti was. Very brave my sister, by the way, because she was there, and she was very strong, supporting him until the last breath. We were worry about her, but she gave us a lesson.

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Sisira

My heartfelt sympathies !

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Big_Mcc

RIP

So sorry...condolences from my family to yours sir. Thanks for being there for him.☹️

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Tinuriel

Adding my thoughts and prayers to all these. May you know deep peace even as you grieve.

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