Does anyone else have a fave song for... - Advanced Prostate...

Advanced Prostate Cancer

21,029 members26,212 posts

Does anyone else have a fave song for helping with the stress of having advanced PCa?

Derf4223 profile image
56 Replies

Dx in early 2022. A lot of tension and stress built as treatment escalated -- from Firmagon through radiation and since then abi+lupron. Especially during daily RT sessions with the big honking IMRT machine rotating around me. Tension exacerbated by knowing that PSMA-CT scan spine spots (3) were not going to be treated. (I was oligometastatic, but treated as if I was localized spread only) The song Blinding Lights by the Weeknd had and continues to have a ton of meaning for me. High energy X-rays are about the brightest "blinding lights" I have ever encountered. I feared not being around to be a good partner with my wife, I felt alone, etc. This web site is a god-send.

Other coping mechanisms: church, exercise (especially long woodsy walks where we rarely run into more than 1-2 people and their dog/dogs.)

My PSA dropped to undetectable levels post-RT through now, 7 months on.

PS get your bone density checked!!! Don't wait for something to break. ADT+abi+prednisone drains bone density.

Written by
Derf4223 profile image
Derf4223
To view profiles and participate in discussions please or .
Read more about...
56 Replies
Darryl profile image
DarrylPartner

good that you think our Malecare site is a godsend. Here’s my song suggestion for you

youtu.be/LZY9_Xr5XPA

Collarpurple profile image
Collarpurple in reply to Darryl

Great Song❤️🙏

in reply to Darryl

Flaming sax , and , Amy Winehouse -esk! Fantastic ! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

Hello Derf4223, …..#1 …Just a gigalo LOUIS Parma , “ life goes on without me” .#2. Sitting on the dock of the bay . “ I can’t do what ten people tell me to do , so I guess I’ll remain the same” #3 lost highway ,hank sr.” Now boys , stop your rambling around” #4 , Cowpoke , by colter wall . “ “ No one cares where I go”! “ When I’m dead and when I’m gone” blood sweat & tears ‘ ……I did the similar imrt firmagon then lupron and tak -700. 7 months clear is great..For me it’s been over 7 yrs . I felt aglow after imrt . God, exercise , walks and dog all on my menu too. Osteo comes with no t . That’s the breaks . I did prolia four yrs stopping it 8 months ago . My new dexa has shown normal bone density now? I have a smart phone with unlimited music and a portable Bose speaker . Music therapy helps me conquer the dulldrums . Keep up the good work and stay strong .

Kanka99 profile image
Kanka99

Zoom by the Commodores; that was when Lionel Richie was still the lead singer. Best to you warrior.

in reply to Kanka99

Zoom - luv it and anything Lionel Richie . “I’d like to fly away”! Thanks Kanka ! 😎✌️

Brianne07 profile image
Brianne07

The best one is You raise me up Martin Hurkins it makes me cry every time i play it on YouTube I have recorded it my self but you do not want to hear my version

Scout4answers profile image
Scout4answers in reply to Brianne07

Oh Yes we do... share it with us please

Brianne07 profile image
Brianne07 in reply to Scout4answers

should have clarified it is my own amateur version .

in reply to Brianne07

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼THANKS!

michael00 profile image
michael00

I listen to Jimmy Charles.

Particularly We are Warriors and Suerman are his songs for cancer fighters.

youtube.com/@JimmyCharles

in reply to michael00

GREAT! Thank you! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

RMontana profile image
RMontana

Take a look at this podcast...how we think, what we think and belive matters...its so hard to stay positive with our disease, but it appears that if you can figure it out it adds up and helps. Good luck Brother...Rick

healthunlocked.com/active-s...

No17 profile image
No17

The shape am in- the bandMr Navigator - arming van burren

KingNeptune profile image
KingNeptune

When I was undergoing 39 rounds of radiation I had the staff constantly replaying Radioactive by The Firm 😊

Derf4223 profile image
Derf4223

A lot of you might get a chuckle from the electrical engineering questions I asked my "beam team", the lovely ladies who ran the IMRT.

Q:"Where's my emergency off button?". A:"You don't get one. Just raise your hand and we will stop it". Think about it -- if a patient is unable to raise their hand, then what? I remained very very still. Not easy to do with an over-full bladder.

Q:"Where does the focused pencil beam of intense radiation go after it passes through my body?". A:"Not sure." I looked it up and the room is built out of special concrete walls that soak it up.

Q:"Why don't you wear dosimeter badges?". A:"The incidental X-Rays off-beam-axis are negligible. And we are not in the room when it is operating." That's wicked assuring, taken together, no?

"Please do not expose your groin." This one cracks me up because the IMRT CT-scans your pelvis 360 degrees every session. They see a whole lot more than naughty skin covered bits.

Mecrispy77 profile image
Mecrispy77

youtube.com/watch?v=LrTKa9S...

icanwintwice profile image
icanwintwice in reply to Mecrispy77

TITANIUM……when I was doing my first, and then my second rounds of radiation i would play this when i got down…….Its a fight. I loved this song. Fight for you life buddy. Never say die!!

Derf4223 profile image
Derf4223 in reply to icanwintwice

This insanely excellent video helps me -- lots of metaphors going on. It has both of my favorite PCA-stress-relieving songs in it -- Blinding Lights and Titanium.

youtube.com/watch?v=7VAXrPR...

BrianF505 profile image
BrianF505

m.youtube.com/watch?v=LODkV...

dmt1121 profile image
dmt1121 in reply to BrianF505

Great selection!

LongevityAT profile image
LongevityAT

my favorite song when on the table, with a full bladder, is "I Gotta Go" by Robert Earl Keen.

youtube.com/watch?v=vTlCyUT...

Blount profile image
Blount

”The Music Will Play On” by Carrie Newcomer. She is a brilliant writer and singer. A number of her songs speak to challenges. Trust me on this advice

Andy1569 profile image
Andy1569 in reply to Blount

AMAZING Artist!

Thanks for the introduction.

Andy

Shorehousejam profile image
Shorehousejam

Healer by Santana and John Lee Hooker

youtu.be/Xox9J0FNjZ8

dmt1121 profile image
dmt1121 in reply to Shorehousejam

Soothes the soul.

Beth Hart daily.

youtube.com/watch?v=cy_9NaR...

Muffin2019 profile image
Muffin2019

Peter Hollens and Home Free acapella music, mostly male groups, guess I gravitate towards those from being in choirs in my younger days.

GSDF profile image
GSDF

I play this for my wife often:

youtu.be/a5YQLcxmhcs

Magnus1964 profile image
Magnus1964

I like Dream and Little Dream of Me, Mamas and the Papas

Andy1569 profile image
Andy1569

See if you enjoy this artist.?

music.youtube.com/channel/U...

Fight On!

Andy

Ecl875 profile image
Ecl875

Que sera sera, whatever will be, will be, from South Pacific

CAMPSOUPS profile image
CAMPSOUPS

A lot of favorites and run the gamut of genres for me. I come back to this one pretty often though.

youtube.com/watch?v=62Ovlez...

j-o-h-n profile image
j-o-h-n

1900 to 1999 Song of the century....

Good Luck, Good Health and Good Humor.

j-o-h-n Sunday 04/02/2023 6:58 PM DST

youtube.com/watch?v=iX_TFku...

dockam profile image
dockam in reply to j-o-h-n

LoL youtu.be/hEcjgJSqSRU

j-o-h-n profile image
j-o-h-n in reply to dockam

A Talented Jedi, filmed in San Francisco, California...

Here's one I like from Al.....

youtube.com/watch?v=YKtlK7s...

Good Luck, Good Health and Good Humor.

j-o-h-n Sunday 04/02/2023 9:48 PM DST

dockam profile image
dockam in reply to j-o-h-n

I'd schlep the kiddos to various Fairs in CA to see Weird Al

youtu.be/-IUMCyAR6U0

dockam profile image
dockam

youtu.be/CDNHQd-8QGY

youtu.be/xo1VInw-SKc

youtu.be/zlOfgLL_qi8

photos.app.goo.gl/ysoFqwR4q...

youtu.be/iPDl9yKSnDE

youtu.be/nEFfzHiEKHY

youtu.be/DgHnqTmKhoc

youtu.be/oF7mP2LASCo

youtu.be/dtC1W-6hwIU

youtu.be/qt_OkgSOrkU

youtu.be/VcjzHMhBtf0

youtu.be/o1wgUwD4XnY

youtu.be/lMGaiSqOp58

youtu.be/o8kbeQ99qRY

youtu.be/4xmckWVPRaI

youtu.be/uIbXvaE39wM

youtu.be/iPUmE-tne5U

youtu.be/NTxxEdBIL6Y

youtu.be/w019MzRosmk

youtu.be/p8Ojjn35kP8

youtu.be/iY91ClURQJQ

youtu.be/34YUI3CmckA

youtu.be/SlPhMPnQ58k

youtu.be/5tXh_MfrMe0

youtu.be/BWf-eARnf6U

Sorry, I went a bit overboard LoL

youtu.be/LkvBJJXMzRc

youtu.be/R398YOIyqp8

It's that dang "gotta get the high score" Asian part of me, that's why my PSA was 840.2 and PSMA SUV Max at 87.5

Sing On/Fight On/QoL On Brothers

Randy

GoBucks profile image
GoBucks in reply to dockam

Went on a little bit... LOL!! Nice hit list.

dockam profile image
dockam in reply to GoBucks

I couldn't stop, my brain kept coming up with songs LoL, it was on auto pilot

Songs for my Funeral:

And When I die

Remember me as a Good thing

Memories

In my Life

Funeral for a Friend but not Love lies Bleeding

GoBucks profile image
GoBucks in reply to dockam

Also: "My Way".

Carlosbach profile image
Carlosbach

Some good songs to help me create a new playlist.

I change all of the time, but my current walk up song or the Oncology center is "Bad To Bone" George Thorogood and the Destroyers.

Now I'm off to have one bourbon, one shot, and one beer!

dockam profile image
dockam in reply to Carlosbach

youtu.be/CbxuXq_981s

Blueribbon63 profile image
Blueribbon63

Derf4223 What a great post this is, thank you for thinking of it. I like most of the named songs and artists, although I haven't really stopped to think about which specific song/artist could help me fight the fight. I have to say that "Burn" posted by Darryl is now in my favorites YouTube playlist. Thank you.

Openwindow2 profile image
Openwindow2

On the quieter side, this one is comforting. Ray Lamontagne wrote it for his wife who was diagnosed with Muscular Dystrophy. youtu.be/ZVfPu42wDvs

Peealot profile image
Peealot

Magnolia by JJ Cale

Derf4223 profile image
Derf4223

Another fave of mine in times of stress Boston Foreplay

youtube.com/watch?v=TnwqUEe...

Derf4223 profile image
Derf4223 in reply to Derf4223

And another one -- Blinding Lights with lasers

youtube.com/watch?v=ylQnK8k...

GoBucks profile image
GoBucks

I constantly just listen to 60's Gold on XM or Amazon Music classic rock. Rock on....

math33 profile image
math33

"Ain't much left of me" by Blackberry Smoke

math33 profile image
math33 in reply to math33

All of Robert Earl Keen songs

Atdabeach profile image
Atdabeach

Joe Walsh, "Life's Been Good"

google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q...

CAMPSOUPS profile image
CAMPSOUPS in reply to Atdabeach

One of my favorites from that album is :

youtube.com/watch?v=VM5SDG0...

Derf4223 profile image
Derf4223 in reply to CAMPSOUPS

With zero T, I feel in better touch with my feminine side (said with tongue in cheek). So this song may help those dealing with the possible feelings that come from that.

youtube.com/watch?v=DiF1itu...

ShenStone profile image
ShenStone

the album Kinda Blue by Miles David is one I play almost everyday when it is time in the evening to stop working, fighting, arranging and planning. It works every time for me. I do remember an article in the NYT several years ago placing it a No.1 with men with PC. 24 years out.

Hey guy! Don’t worry be happy video with robin williams !

You may also like...

Stress and PCa. Does stress activate or elevate PCa activity?

How long have you warriors been on ADT for advanced low volume PCa?

with advanced prostate cancer, metastasized with bone involvement. Started Lupron 2 months ago and...

Anyone Begin Having Heart Trouble Potentially Caused by PCA Treatment?

Zytiga (and recently had prostatectomy). PSA is undetectable...and I’m still working full time...

Lycopene: Does it have a role in fighting PCa?

Does Anyone Have Suggestions Regarding AUS surgery?