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My brothers battle is over

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Dear friends, It is with extreme sadness that I write this. My youngest brother Bobby at age 58 passed this morning. He fought hard for himself and his family for almost 4 years at stage 4.

While he was declining quickly, his passing was unexpected this morning. He kissed his daughter and said goodbye as she went off to school and passed before she left the house.

The pain meds kept him out of pain although the invasion of his lungs created much difficulty with breathing these last 2 weeks.

Bob had a downhill slide that started in November with spinal surgery. He then was hit with numerous other events and entered hospice a month ago. He has had family by his side. It’s been extremely emotional for all of us

Bob has a devoted wife and 4 children. He has a large loving family and many many friends which is a testimony to a life well lived.

Your battle is over my dear sweet brother. Rest In Peace.

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I am so sad. I spoke to Bob multiple times a week for almost 4 years. He became a brother to me

God please take special care of Bob!!!

Pat you were an amazing sister and supported him so much. I know he really appreciated all you did

You were indeed a great friend and a godsend to him at the most difficult time in his life. Thank you for being there

I'm so sorry to hear this sad news. I know how valiantly you advocated for him, and how much you took every setback to heart. Thanks for letting me share in his journey along the way - I always read your updates with great sadness. It sounds like his life was a blessing to his family, and you, and they blessed his life.

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Faith1111 in reply to Tall_Allen

How do I even begin to thank you TA. You are a godsend to every person on here. You have helped us more than you’ll ever know.Thank you for your kind response

Sad to hear of his passing. He and his loving family fought hard to overcome the disease. I'm continually inspired by the stories of strength of fellow warriors. They give me strength to fight on.

I'm glad be know he is free from the disease and at peace.

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Faith1111 in reply to Javelin18

Thank you Javelin

My heart goes out to the Family.

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Faith1111 in reply to Ramp7

Thank you Ramp

Where do I go, and what do I say when I get there? I thank you for allowing me to participate in your brother's Journey. Everything I know about this disease was not enough to be of help. As the Lord, our God had other plans. His plans are perfect! I never called you by your real name, and that is OK as Faith is just so appropriate! And may Mercy and Grace follow you in all your days. {May the Lord Bless you and keep you, and make His face to shine upon you, and be gracious unto you, May the Lord lift up His countenance upon you, and may the Lord grant you His peace[Shalom]. In Yeshua's Name Let us all Pray this].

Please do not leave us! You have valuable knowledge and are a Prayer warrior!


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Faith1111 in reply to Nalakrats

Nal your advice over the years led us to Dr Beltran, helped us get to Foundation One and onto Keytruda. Keytruda gave him 8 months he wouldn’t have had. Because of you. Thank you for your advice and your beautiful prayers. They comfort me. In time I will check in. I still pray for people on this site. I will be writing his eulogy as he asked. I hope I can do his incredible life justice.

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Nalakrats in reply to Faith1111

Pray before writing has always worked for me! That is how I got to write GreatJohn's--I prayed, and the words just came tumbling out. My fingers could almost not keep up, as the Holy Spirit went on helping me.


My deepest sympathy 💔

So sorry for you and your family’s loss. He was lucky to have such a devoted and loving sister. You all are in my thoughts and prayers.

So sad to hear the news. He was much too young. I have been following your brother’s progress and hoping for the best as some of his treatments have been similar to my husband’s. Can’t believe your brother had to get shingles in the middle of all his other problems. Sounds like something my husband would do. Please accept my condolences and know that many of us will be thinking of you and your family.

I am so very sorry. This is heartbreaking news. You’ve been such an extraordinary support for your brother. I’m so so sorry. 💔

I am so sorry to hear about your brother's passing. You both fought the fight with tenacity, faith, hope and love.

I truly hope that you will continue on this site, as you have helped me and others here. Your accumulated knowledge has made you a great advocate and resource.

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I’m so truly sorry to hear of your brother Bob’s passing. I always followed your posts, and hoped and prayed for Bob. He was blessed to have such a devoted sister. Thank you for sharing his journey with us. Your experience and encouragement have been so helpful to many of us. May Bob Rest In Peace. I pray for strength and comfort for his loving family.

I am so very sorry to hear this. Prayers.

So very sorry to hear this. Your brother could not have had a more caring sibling than you. Wishing you peace.

Sorry for your loss.

I'm so very sorry to read your post and grateful to you for taking the time to write and let us know. I have been following your journey for a while and praying daily for Bob, his family and you for strength. This must have been the most painful post of all for you to write. I do want to thank you for being here for all of us. Not only did you seek answers here, but you've been ready to reply to others with the knowledge that you've fought so hard to acquire. I hope, after time, that you check back in with us. But completely understand if you can't. Please know that we share your sorrow. Prayers for strength for you and your family will continue. Please take good care of yourself.

Another brother lost the battle but won the war. You have been a sister sent from God and your dear brother knew it as we all do. May he finally rest with the angels and watch his family from above. When I take that step from here to there I will meet your brother and I hope he recognizes me since I was the one who always called him Robert. God Bless you and God Bless him and his whole family and friends. 58 years old, he was too young(and has a special meaning to me). We hope you will stay with us, we need caregivers information and advice. Dominus vobiscum.

j-o-h-n Wednesday 05/18/2022 11:07 PM DST

I’m sorry to hear of the loss of your brother. Words are never enough, my condolences to you, Bob’s family and friends.


Awwwww Faith, so very sorry for this news. Have comfort that You advocated hard for your Brother. You were always active here. Inquiring with the latest therapy that may have helped your Brother. Too young, and with 4 children. Too much sadness. The only consolation, and it is huge, your Brother Bobbie is no longer in pain or struggling. He is at Peace now. You did all you could Faith. You are a wonderful Sister. We send Blessings to you and your Family,

Mike & Barbara

So sorry 😪

I'm sorry to hear the news and have appreciated your presence on the forum, you're one of the familiar faces to me.

I am sorry for your family loss.

So sorry to learn of you sad loss - my sincere condolences - May Bob rest in peace & you & his family find peace & happiness now his suffering is over

My sincere condolences. I've been too short in this community to say more. But I wish the family a lot of strength for the future, knowing that we will all be together again someday.

What an amazing and loving sister you are. I have siblings that help me too. And I can tell you how much it means to have that family love and support. I am sure he felt very blessed. You have my deepest condolences and your family is in my prayers.


My heart goes to you and your family. Thank you for posting. Thanks also for previous advice on shingles vaccine - I will do. Now I’m in hospital after 3rd spinal surgery - you have helped me, even in your pain. Blessings.

Condolences, may you find comfort in prayer.

I am sorry for your loss, my sincere condolences.

Every member's passing is a reminder that we are fighting a battle against a very resourceful adversary. My condolences to you and the family. Take care.

My heart goes out to you and his entire family. I pray gods blessings on you all. May he comfort you as you go through this time.

God bless your dear brother & condolences to you and your family. Sending love SheilaFx

So very sad for you all. Your examples help inform and guide those of us facing the same diagnosis, thank you. I believe you will be reunited one day. God bless and keep you as you grieve for your beloved warrior little brother.

I’m so sorry. May his memory be a blessing and source of love and comfort.

Dear faith , I’m so so sorry for the loss of your brother I hope his family and friends find peace my heart is with you .Carol x

Such a sad,sad day. My deepest condolences to you and all his family.

I am so deeply sorry for your loss. Peace to the family

I'm so sorry to hear of Bobby's passing. Thank you for sharing his recent experiences with us. You are a good sister. Knowing that he is no longer in pain is a blessing to us all. Rest in Peace.

Faith, sorry doesn't really convey how sad I feel about Bob passing. My heart goes out to you and all of the family. Know that you did your best for him and that he knew how much he was loved.

I could't sleep, jumped on the laptop and read this. Oh my, what a lost, it feels like I just talked to the amazing Bob yesterday. Why I'm surviving beyond these wonderful others?

God bless you and family...

So sorry for your loss.

I'm vey sorry for your loss. My condolences to you and his family 💔🙏

I’m so sorry for your loss.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Words can not express the sorrow I feel every time I hear of a fellow warrior losing the war against this monster 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

I just opened my eyes and saw your post with tears streaming down my face. I feel, I felt like I let Bob down, I had so much hope and belief that the Keytruda my husband received would be the miracle he needed, I wish it was. What a great man, how blessed he was to have you as a sister, a family that adored him. He will stay in my heart and mind forever.

I am very sorry to hear this. Heartfelt condolences to you and his family, esp the children. 🙏

Oh Faith, I am so sorry that your brother Bob has passed,…..Bob, you are in all of our preyers❤️

Our condolences and prayers to you and your family. God bless and comfort all of you during this time.

So sorry to hear of Bob’s passing. Prayers going out for you and your family.

So sorry for your loss

Very sorry for you and your family’s loss.


So sorry for the loss of your brother. Your brother fought hard against this disease. He was too young. May he Rest In Peace

I am so, so, sorry to read this. Please accept my heartfelt condolences.

Very sorry to hear this . He was far too young. Please accept my deepest condolences to you and Bob’s family🙏🏻

I’m so sorry to read of his passing. May God give you and the family peace and comfort.

I am sorry for your loss. Peace to you and your family.

Faith, I am so sorry for your loss, thank you for sharing your posts about Bob. He was fortunate to have such a wonderful family with him. May you treasure his memories. Maureen and Lowbed.

My deepest condolences.

Sending condolences & prayers . He is out of pain. You will heal. I too lost my beloved brother to Cancer.

I'm sorry for your loss, prayer for you and the family!

I am sad to hear that your beloved brother has passed away. He went through so much and you with him.


So sorry for your loss.

So very sorry. God Bless

I am so sorry Faith. You have been a devoted sister to your brother and such a warm person to all of us here. We share in your grief.

I am so sorry to hear this. You fought so hard and stayed so involved in his battle. He couldn't have asked to be loved and supported more than he was. May the time come soon when your thoughts of him are not clouded by grief.

My condolences.

I am so sad and sorry to read this awful news. You have been an amazing advocate for Bob. Please pass on my love and prayers to Bob's family and your wider family.Love and prayers.


I am sincerely sorry for you and your families loss.

So sorry for your/our loss! Prayers and love to the family 🤗

Sorry for your loss. He is at peace now.

I wish I had the right words so stay, this is a tremendous loss coupled with being so young. I pray that you all feel a sense of peace and that his memories will bring you more laughter and smiles than tears. I hope that you feel the lord wrap his arms around you during this time. Sending hugs.

I'm so sorry for your loss, and sorry he passed at such a young age. It's obvious by the messages above how highly you and your brother were thought of here. Peace.

Very sorry to hear this sad news. Although I was not aware of your brother, it hits home for me since I was diagnosed at age 54. Fortunately I was diagnosed "early", and have been able to outrun it so far using surgery, lots of radiation, and chemo. I'm sure your brother's heart was filled with love and gratitude for you and his family. May you all live long and healthy.

I am also so sorry for your loss! He will live on in his children and you will see him every day in their antics, mannerisms, sayings.

I am so sorry to hear about your brother’s passing - our brother’s passing. He and his family are blessed to have you close and attentive. May his memory be a blessing.

Sorry for your loss. My prayers for you and his family. You are a strong person,

We are so very sorry to hear this news!

Peace and Love to you and family Faith

Dear Faith1111,

We have "keyboarded" back and forth a few times. You have made HU and Malecare a better site and place to be.

You are a heroine, someone that is the glue that holds families together and who provides firm footing when a tragedy happens. Someone that others look to for support.

Do not forget to take time for yourself. Take time to grieve. Family, friends and clergy can be helpful--and sometimes --not. Some alone time can help too. We learn to live with a loss such as the feeling the loss of your brother must be to you. Every day of my life the most significant loss of a loved one in my life comes to mind and for decades has. The good memories, although tinged with a sadness, also are there. I wouldn't trade never having had that person in my life to avoid the pain of separation that death brings. I know that you wouldn't either.

Know that I and others here will be thinking of you.


So sorry for your loss

Very sorry to read this. May you and Bob's family find some comfort knowing that he's not in any pain. You are a dear sister and you did everything possible to help him in his battle. When you want to see him, just turn around and look at your shadow as he will walk with you the rest of your life.

Dear Faith

I am so so sorry to read that your beloved brother passed today. Your love shone through the miles from your posts and it was clear your ‘Bobby’ was much loved .

With many many condolences , you have inspired me and many others clearly, to live each day to it’s fullest and most of all that family and friends are what matters in life.

I know you will do a eulogy that does him proud, your writing here shows that.

Faith I am so sorry. I am not good at this as if I or anyone is "good at this". At trying to get the words typed out.

I am a bit new to here and you came thru as a beacon to me the first times I saw your posts/replies.

You put a lot into this and it showed. It helped me. I still see hope for myself to gain some time due to what you have shared over the time you have been here.

I wish so strongly things would have gone differently for Bob. Young and young children. Not fair. Not right. I have come to understand the journey for all of us but it doesn't lessen how crappy it really is.

I hope only the best for you and Bob's wife and children.

If I don't hear see you here in the future again I want to thank you for all you did not just for Bob but for guys like me with your presence.

Condolences 🙏🙏🙏

Your championing of your brother during his illness has been a source of inspiration. May you (and the rest of Bob’s family and friends) find peace and comfort in your memories of his life and of what he has meant to each of you.

Praying for God’s peace and comfort for his family and friends!!🙏

This is the part I hate about this website.......... I was afraid that this was coming. I also have an older brother we call Bobby (real name is Robert) who also has prostate cancer along with me, but we aren't close like you and your Bobby.

My deepest sympathy. I pray that God gives you the strength to live life like Bobby would want you to live. We'll miss your inspiring postings on this website. 😥

Your brother will thank you your father and mother will thank you you grandmother and grandfather and faith was your destination to be with him. I and everyone in this forum will thank you for being his light and righteous way of extending your warmth and guiding love ❤️.I am so proud of you.

May your journey find peaceful landings….

Faith Other than being a fellow wounded warrior, I can only say. Sorry another brother is gone, Rest in Peace, and my sincere condolences.

I am so very sorry for your and Bob's family's loss.

"The LORD bless you and keep you;

The LORD make His face shine upon you,

And be gracious to you;

The LORD lift up His countenance upon you,

And give you peace."

My deepest sympathies to you and your family. He was blessed to have you alongside him on this journey.

My sincere condolences

Stay strong in his memory


I would be happy to have such a Sister! Please accept my most sincere condolences on the untimely departure of your brother.. Be strong and may God protect Bobby's family!

Oh no! Heartbreaking ! I’m so sorry. 🕊🙏💔

God bless your brother, and best wishes to your family.

My sincerest sympathies. Praying for peace and comfort for your family and you.

I am so sad about the loss of your loving brother, much earlier than expected in life that he has lived in an exemplary manner with his family and friends. May he rest in eternal peace 🙏.My condolences to his family and all loved ones.

I am so sorry and saddened to hear of the loss of your brother. May he rest in peace.

Tragic- he was so young. Condolences.

His prostate cancer battle is over, but his time and memories on this world lives on...

Very very sorry to hear this. Condolences.

May he RIP

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Faith1111 in reply to Kevinski65

Thank you

thinking and remembering Bob...

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Faith1111 in reply to DarkEnergy

Thank you so much for remembering. We are planning for his wake on Thursday and his funeral on Friday. I wrote his obit and just finished writing the eulogy. This week has been a whirlwind. Lots of family all helping out and pitching in. His wife is really struggling.

So sorry for your loss. Praying for you and your family.

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