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Good night my Darling Man

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After 5 years and 7 months and a bucket list over- filled, my lovely Michael has gone to rest. My heart is so broken and my life so empty the pain of grief so hard to accept. But I wanted to thank all of you for the support and courage you have given me when ever I asked and just knowing you were with us. God Bless x

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Magnus1964

God bless you and Michael.

I am so sorry for your pain and loss. It has to be very difficult when you lose a close love....Someone who is a part of you. Thank you being such a strong support for Michael. That is one of the best things in the world. Please do your best to take care of yourself.

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DarrylPartner

Condolences

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4girls

I'm so sorry, we'll be thinking and praying for you tonight.

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LearnAll

May God give you strength to bear this big loss. May his soul move forward in her journey away liberating from this material World.

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Tall_Allen

I'm so sorry that your pain is just beginning, but at least Michael's pain is over. I'm glad you had such a full life together.

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Collarpurple

🙏❤️

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RalphieJr64

So sorry. I hope the end was peaceful. God Bless him on his next journey.

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ctarleton

Thanks for letting us know. His physical pain is all gone now. Please don't hesitate to seek after-care services for yourself as you may need them. Big Virtual Hugs to you.

Rest in peace dear Michael.🙏🙏🙏

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dockam

Oh dear, another Brother taken :-(.

Rest in Peace and suffer no more

Hugs to you and the family

Randy

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dvcarola2

I am so sorry for your loss. Prayers of strength and comfort for you and your family in this difficult time. May your husband Michael rest in peace.

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timotur

God bless you all, Psalm 23.

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Costarica1961

So sorry for your loss peace be with you.

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ucladany

Rest in Peace my Brother. Amandaking, praying for you and your family.

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NiallMcC

Hoping you find the strength that you need.

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siouxbee19

Many prayers for comfort and peace sent up, please take care of yourself and know we are here for you...🙏🕊️

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Kaliber

So sorry to hear the news Amanda , my heart goes out to you.

Every one of us surely needs and wants someone to hold our hand, hug and kiss us goodbye and hopefully grieve for us a little ,... after.

Michael is so lucky to have you.

Best wishes Amanda

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dress2544

My heartfelt condolences

Blair77 profile image
Blair77

I lost my Michael too. His body died on May 8th, he was 50. We have two boys ages 6 and 9. I know he is still here with me and I’m sure your Michael is still with you. The kids and I look for blue birds as a sign that daddy is saying hi or sending his love. Look for your blue birds 💕

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HopingForTheBest1 in reply to Blair77

Please know that your many posts have been very helpful to us. Thank you and god bless.

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Kevinski65 in reply to HopingForTheBest1

This is so hard and painful to hear. Men dying so young. I hope u can find peace.

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Mikeski in reply to Blair77

So sorry...peace

Besan profile image
Besan

Very saddened to hear that a friend of us is no more around us

My deepest sympathy of condolences

to you and the whole family

May you hold all to the heart .we here to support and comfort during this time of pain and emptiness.

All is well dear sister.

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Alinur

Heartfelt condolences.RIP.

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Chask

I think Michael was very fortunate to have such a loving partner to help him through the rough times. I am sure his last thoughts were full of love for you.

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Attitude67

Condolences, God Bless!

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Schwah

So sad for your loss. But so happy you got to fill that bucket list. Wondering.... of all the bucket list items , what was your favorite and what was his? Don’t worry if it’s still to painful to answer. But when you have time, the gang here knows we are mostly on borrowed time ourselves so we love him hear the nice stories of dreams fulfilled.

Schwah

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sdnb

Dearest sweet Amandaking, my heart hurts so deeply for you, honey. I am saddened that you have these horrible pains. My late husband went Home to be with Jesus after his 5 years+3 months journey. While I won't dare say, "I know what you're going through," I nevertheless have been on my own journey through those pains. Each of us experience the losses of our husbands in different ways. You will soon see what good intentions your family and friends have for you, but there is absolutely nothing that can compare with your loss..... why might I say that? Because it's you who has lost your spouse. They've had their own losses, and death is probably the only thing that we can understand via our own eyes. Please do look for a widows' support group. Listen to me say that.... I have not fully done that myself, but I "tried out" three or four groups. For me, though, I couldn't get out of the groups what was needed/expected so I gave myself permission to be my own support group for a while. Grief has no timeframe. Amandaking, I am so sorry that you have to experience the loss of your husband. I wish you good days, and at least tolerable nights. You are not alone. I even needed to contact this site to ask the gentlemen their thoughts regarding their treatments, the role their wives played as caretakers, and other such questions that popped up in my head. You will receive genuine answers from these men and things to ponder that are amazing.... these are the most incredible men ever, and I appreciated each and every reply they sent to me. They are very compassionate. May you be comforted by the many blessings God grants you. They will be all around. Take time to notice the good in life. I'm sure your Michael would want you to enjoy it.

Warmly, Susan

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j-o-h-n in reply to sdnb

Hello Susan, It is a pleasure and a delight to see you here again. Your sweet husband would be proud of you...Keep posting here and I must say that you have a wonderful person in your support group...

Good Luck, Good Health and Good Humor.

j-o-h-n Monday 05/25/2020 7:16 PM DST

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sdnb in reply to j-o-h-n

HaHaHa! Yes, and thank you. This group does have a wonderful person in the support group. (wink) In fact this person has won "Most Wonderful Person in the Support Group" so many times that I've lost count! It's time to spread the honor around a bit more, don't you think? I remember your incredible sense of humor. You had such a humorous style of comments, j-o-h-n. Wishing you continued good health!

Flash64 profile image
Flash64

Sincere condolences.

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depotdoug

But at least Michaels pain is over.

Now let the healing begin Amandaking

Let The Healing Begin.

youtu.be/Qe1yKciSlT4

Tmetz profile image
Tmetz

I am so sorry. Rest In Peace, dear Michael

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curious-mind1

So very sorry for your loss, may you find comfort in his memory, and the life you lived together.

Art

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immunity1

From me too, my sympathies.

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lincolnj8

So sorry for your loss

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MelaniePaul

Amanda, I am so very sorry for your loss particularly in these difficult times. Love and light, Mel.

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sedgley

Peace to you both.

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DeanNelson

My almighty god hold you and Michael in his ever loving arms..

Peace be with you

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leo2634

My sincere condolences.

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Golfnow

😢🙏

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VisualDeadlock

Sorry for your loss

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Bebby1

I’m so sorry

The pain

The sadness

I pray for you

I’m sure he knew how you loved him

God Bless

Edcl profile image
Edcl

Peace be with you and know that Michael and the Lord are at your side

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Alicat1

My sincere condolences

Summm profile image
Summm

Strength to you and eternal rest to Michaels soul... 🙏🙏

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SPEEDYX

My the Lord strengthen you!!!

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Wongle1

Keep strong love xx

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larry_dammit

So very sorry for your loss. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

Judymin profile image
Judymin

So very sorry for your loss.

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Curehunter

So sorry for your loss and may peace be with you.

Your post means so much to us in your hour of pain and grief. We all grieve with you. God bless.

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TNCanuck

I am so very sorry for your loss. May memories of your time with Michael bring comfort to you and your boys.

RayF profile image
RayF

RIP Brother Michael.

Peace to you and yours.

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sharpcut

Sending you some love , strength and hope to bare this pain He is gone but now in a better place and still loving you

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Survivor1965

So very sorry

CarrotBoy profile image
CarrotBoy

I'm so sorry to hear that. Be strong, and if you can't be, try to endure. Do you have close family, friend or some support. You need a shoulder, you need to be with caring people.

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Brbnbrn

I'm so sorry. I'm so happy you got to over flow the bucket list. May you find peace and comfort in many wonderful memories. 💕⚘

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Currumpaw

Amandaking,

My sincere sympathies to you. With time we learn to live with such a loss. There will always be times when the pain is palpable. Those times come but they also leave.

Know that from the postings, oh yes!-- how much you are admired for your courage, loyalty and the love you two had.

Find little moments of peace please. Those moments will become longer and the memories, though still painful, when remembered, will be cherished by you. Some of the terms of this contract of living suck--but to get to the good parts, the bad has to be accepted too.

So sorry!

Currumpaw

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snoraste

My condolences. Wishing you and the family peace.

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Istomin

My deepest condolences.

bunny91 profile image
bunny91

I'm so sorry for your loss but he is in a better place now.

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wagscure259

So very sorry for your loss of your beloved Michael. Your care of him was inspiring to my wife and I. May the peace of the Lord be with you and your family and may your memories of your life together warm your heart daily.

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DSEE

There are no words- I personally feel your loss as my husband just lost his battle in January this year to this disease.

We all fight so hard- also we fought for 5 years.

Take it one day at a time- and Faith helps to get through this.

Peace be with you!

I am so very, very sorry. My husband Michael lost his battle 4 months ago. Praying for strength through this very sad and hard road. If you ever need to talk I am here.

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Pizzle123

My condolences to you and your family. A wise man once told me ' take one day at a time and take it as it comes' it will be hard but not impossible look to the future with your children and remind them what a great man their dad was.

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Psa73

Condolences to you and Michael

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pleinairpainter

My heartfelt condolences to you and your family.

ocman profile image
ocman

So sorry for your loss...

Ahk1 profile image
Ahk1

So sorry for your loss. My deepest condolences.

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CaseydelaTor

Sorry for your loss😭🙏🙏🙏🙏

Stay strong🙏

Break60 profile image
Break60

May he Rest In Peace !

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Blueslover

So very sorry for your loss. God Bless you

jmwife330 profile image
jmwife330

Thinking of you and your family !!!

Condolences and Prayers.

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Pierreb

May god be with you both. My sincerest condolences.

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Jrb12

Prayers to you Amanda and mzy God lift Michael into his eternal kingdom.

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NWLiving

(((Hugs)))

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rocket09

My heart goes out to you.

Concernedwife24 profile image
Concernedwife24

So sorry for your loss.

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Sheryn11

I’m so sorry. Michael was so blessed to have you by his side. May He Rest In Peace now. May God grant you tranquility in your heart always and bless you.

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elliefight4dad

Hugs and blessings to you, Amanda❤

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Jmr11820

I’m sorry. Peace be with you.

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MMK-XFuture

My sincere condolences for your loss. Rest in peace, Michael.

You've taken care of Michael at his time of need, it's time you take care of yourself.

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JimBarringer

I add my condolences for your loss

oilcan4 profile image
oilcan4

Prayers for you and Michael

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gamemaster34

I am sorry for your lost.

MarkBC profile image
MarkBC

Sorry for your loss. I hope you can find the strength to carry on through this difficult period.

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Kuanyin

This body is not me.

I am not limited by this body.

I am life without boundaries.

I have never been born, and I have never died.

Look at the ocean and the sky filled with stars, manifestations from my wondrous true mind.

Since before time, I have been free.

Birth and death are only doors through which we pass, sacred thresholds on our journey.

Birth and death are a game of hide-and seek.

So laugh with me, hold my hand, let us say good-bye, say good-bye, to meet again soon.

We meet today.

We will meet again tomorrow.

We will meet at the source every moment.

We meet each other in all forms of life.

~ Thich Nhat Hanh

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RonnyBaby

I join the others in sharing your grief. I'm sure he was loved and cherished.

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G9doingfine

My sincere condolences on your loss. Keep his memory alive and hang in there . :-)

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monte1111

It is so hard to say goodbye. In these days of no hugs or kisses, goodbye is even harder. I send you hugs and kisses and hope they will help you and yours on your new journey.

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Gearhead

Amanda, bless you for thinking of us as sort of a special family and letting us know that Michael has passed. Please know that we understand and even share your grief.

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jfoesq

May your pain pass quickly and your fond memories replace them

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BaliDream

My condolences on another life taken way too soon...prayers to you and your family 😢😢😢

j-o-h-n profile image
j-o-h-n

May my condolences bring you comfort and may my prayers ease the pain of this loss. Michael was a lucky man to have you by his side. He must be smiling down on you. God Bless...

j-o-h-n Monday 05/25/2020 7:34 PM DST

Mikeski profile image
Mikeski

🙏

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Vitaminlover

So very, very sorry for your loss. Prayers to you and your family during this very tough time.

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benninger

So very sorry for your loss . Prayers for you and your family.

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Fitzbruce1

He had a loving and caring wife. He was a lucky man in so many ways! Wishing you peace and love in your future!

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caretkr

Rest in peace. May God bless you with strength

Brackenridge profile image
Brackenridge

So very sorry for your loss.

tallguy2 profile image
tallguy2

In deepest sympathy on the loss of your dear Michael.

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Dachshundlove

Dear Amandaking

The truest thing I ever heard about this crushing pain of grief is: It will hurt a lot for a little while and a little for a long time.

I’m so sorry for your loss. And I hope that in these next weeks and months you have people you can lean on.

I cannot imagine how lonely it feels.😪

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Bird8

I am so sorry for your loss. Wrapping you in love and prayers.

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Sandfromfla

Amanda, I admire your bravery for opening up to this online forum. As the wife of a newly disgnosised APC patient, your past is my not too distant future. I'm scared of the sadness and loneliness to come. Thank you for helping me toughen up. You are in my thoughts.

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GoEZ

To the good fight.

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16starsky

Dear Amanda, what can I say that others have not already said. All I can say is im so very sorry for your loss, and God bless you and your family in the difficult times ahead. May Michael rest in peace, I will say a prayer for you all. Keep strong.

Kim xx

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Wdoug

Love and Prayers for you. Cherish the memories but keep living as he would want.

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holgar

My thoughts are with you. I cannot imagine the pain, the loss that you must be feeling at this time. It sounds as if you two kept up with your bucket list and I imagine that this will give you many bitter sweet memories. Lots of love, Carola

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joeguy

So sorry to hear this.......we have lost far too many to this damn disease.

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MateoBeach

Had to wait an extra day before replying as my heart could not hold it. Bless you and may the love you share abide in eternity.

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ron_bucher

May your fondest memories help you through the coming months and beyond.

binati profile image
binati

My sincere condolences. I hope the good days with him will keep his memory alive forever.

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Amandaking

Thank you - your messages of support have been overwhelming. For those that asked - Michael relished a first ever holiday to Australia and flying by helicopter to the Great Barrier Reef - I (selfishly) embraced the last 10 weeks of shielding together at home as I didn’t have to share Michael with anybody xxxx

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scarlino

Very Sorry for your loss.

greatjohn profile image
greatjohn

So sorry for your loss

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