The passing of one of our brothers, userID "JLS1"

[j-o-h-n]

I guess most of us missed this one sentence in JLS1's post from a couple of days ago:

Quote: "This is what I was working on getting for my husband the day before he died last month".

You may wish to convey your condolences to his wife, an intelligent and caregiving spouse.

j-o-h-n Wednesday 05/06/2020 5:30 PM DST

YOU CAN POST TO JLS1 PRIVATELY. THANK YOU.

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Thanks j-o-h-n.

[j-o-h-n]

You're quite welcome....

Good Luck, Good Health and Good Humor.

j-o-h-n Wednesday 05/06/2020 9:35 PM DST

[Haniff]

Thanks for the update j-o-h-n

Appreciate it

❤️

Haniff

[siouxbee19]

Thank you for sharing, much appreciated!

[Garbonzeaux]

Thanks j-o-h-n.

I urge that all of us instruct our significant others to post news of our passing, or whatever other reason we may no longer participate in this forum. It's hard when one of our brothers just disappears, and we never know why. Bad news is never welcome, but closure is.

[Currumpaw in reply to Garbonzeaux]

Garbonzeaux,

It may have hurt too much for her to post. The spiritual, the mental pain can be worse and more debilitating than physical pain. Then there is the failure thing. No matter how much or hard we try, when we lose the battle to save or extend a loved one's life, we sometimes assign guilt to ourselves.

The only good thing I can say about this, how it affects some left behind, is that they had a love that was more valuable than any treasure.

It takes about 100,000 times, remembering the one who has passed before the pain eases.

We don't get "over it", we learn to "live with it".

You are right though, that we may be wondering after some time not seeing someone respond to a post or make a post. We sometimes go a few weeks in between posting our thoughts.

Thankfully j-o-h-n picked up on it. None of us read every post. It is easy to miss a matter of importance such as the passing of a member, especially if they are alone.

It is obvious that you feel a bond with those of us on HU, your mention of closure. I think we all feel a bond between us even if at times there are somewhat heated exchanges and differences of opinion. That is how humanity works. Welcome!

Currumpaw

[j-o-h-n in reply to Currumpaw]

I would have said that word for word.... but you beat me to it....Thank you (stay safe).

Good Luck, Good Health and Good Humor.

j-o-h-n Thursday 05/07/2020 1:11 PM DST

[jberg22]

I haven't posted in a while... but I got an email with j-o-h-n mentioning a passing of someone in this group... I don't know him but he has a great heart and it transcends the virtual barrier. Thank you for being here j-o-h-n. And my deepest condolences to the life that has been lost.

[j-o-h-n in reply to jberg22]

Thank you for your kind post.... Yes another brother gone... May he rest in peace.. You stay safe during these trying times and stay well fighting the beast..

Good Luck, Good Health and Good Humor.

j-o-h-n Thursday 05/07/2020 6:37 PM DST