Yesterday I lost the love of my life, a wonderful father to two beautiful children, grandfather to 4, friend to countless many.
Words cannot express how utterly devastated we all are but feel so blessed to have known and loved such a great man.
Chris was an avid hockey player, incredible plumber, self taught gold miner, fearless boat racer, creative and talented in too many ways to list.
He taught and showed me love for 27 fabulous years and I will cherish every moment we ever had together.
And I thank him for his last gift he gave me: irony. I believe he held on to give us one last smile for the date he passed...Tub111 raced on to be with those before us...1-11-2019
365 days from diagnosis
❤️Sleep well my love❤️
Sheri
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You have my condolences... a great picture.... Chris sounds like a guy I would have enjoyed hoisting a brew with.....a warrior rests after fighting with everything he had...May God watch over you and your family, and of course, Chris....I hope he was comfortable...
I'm so sorry to hear this. Gold miner! I've only panned for gold - would have loved to have learned how to mine it. I expect he is in a city of gold now.
My heart is breaking for you!!! 💔I am so, so, so sorry for your loss!!! 💔
I'm so sorry for your loss and sit reading this with an empty feeling. You have made it clear your love for Chris. He was blessed with 27 years of a beautiful life you gave each other. He looks like a great guy. May he lace up his skates again and find a checkered flag at the finish line. This is a sobering reality to all of us just how fast things can happen. You have my sincere condolences.
Beautiful tribute to the love of your life named Chris. No one can begin to fathom the depths of your loss. He sounds like the sort of person any of us would have felt privileged to know. (And the wonderful photo you post confirms that feeling for me.)
Having lost two close siblings to cancer over the last 8 years, I take solace in the simple fact that in both cases, they continue to exist in the lives of all those who knew and loved them. From your description, Chris was known and loved by many, most of all by his loving wife. Sincere condolences for your loss. Be Well - cujoe
Oh, my dear Sheri, my heart goes out to you & your family!
You have been a great source of support & strength to me. I have tried to emulate your loving, caring commitment to your beloved husband & I will continue to do so as my husband & I go forward with the challenges of his PCa.
Not another one! - this has been a horrific last 6 months with Men passing to f'n PCa. My sincerest condolences and prayers to you and the family. May I add his name to my back bib that I'm wearing at the Surf City marathon on Super Bowl Sunday? Unfortunately, there are 18 other men who have succumbed. Rest in Peace Sir and suffer no more.
I’m so sorry, there are no words to express the sorrow I feel for you and your family. I watched your posts on this forum and you impressed me so much with your love and strength. May you tap into that strength in the days to come.
Sheri, this is heartbreaking to hear. I read all of your threads and you've been incredibly strong through this terrible ordeal. I'm still trying to comprehend why this disease attacks otherwise healthy and active people like Chris. God bless you and may he rest in peace. Tim
Dear Sheri, I’m so heartbroken for you and your family. People have the misconception to say this is one of the good cancers. May your Chris be playing and enjoying peace in the city of Gold. Thank you for all your support and post to the community here. Your Chris was one of the Luckey ones to have you by his side during his last earthly race. God Bless you Sheri.
Dear Sheri, family and friends, I remember posting that "God is on your side". Well your beloved husband Chris is now on the side of God. I know he will rest in peace knowing that he was married to a wonderful woman and had a loving family. The Greeks have a saying when expressing their condolences, it's "Η ζωή στους ζωντανούς", which means "Life to the living". So may you and your family live a long and healthy life in memory of your Dear Husband Chris.
Sending you my sincerest, deepest condolences to you and your family. This new club we've just joined is not a club we ever wanted to be in. I feel your pain, as I still feel the loss of my husband from 2 weeks ago today. My heart goes out to you. Hold on tight to those memories!
I am very sorry, truth beknown I could be a little jealous of you and your husbands life. Your very fortunate to have found and loved each other so long, god bless both of you.
So sad to hear that Sheri. Your guys love sounds like something we all strive for in life. Sorry it had to end so soon. Take comfort knowing he had to know how much you adored and loved him.
After reading about Chris's untimely passing, I went back to review your previous posts. You are an amazing person, wordsmith, "wife, caregiver, cheerleader", and so deserving of every conceivable accolade! At my stage in life, I have been privy to numerous dismal happenings and don't shed tears easily; however, your posts made remaining 'tough' quite difficult. Perhaps the estradiol that I'm currently on is a factor, but I can't imagine anyone not being immensely touched by your extraordinary love, compassion, and support for Chris! Your optimism, encouragement, and outlook on life has been an inspiration to all of us on this forum, and for that I thank you! May your family, friends, and God be of special comfort to you through this traumatic time.
Always appreciate your informative, witty, and frequent compassionate posts/comments. It’s great hearing that you are currently experiencing “no visible signs” with a "PSA of .00 something”, especially considering the ‘hell' that you have gone through! I would certainly enjoy ‘breaking bread’ with you during one of my AZ visits. I have a close friend in Phoenix whom I try to visit when out West, and running down to Tucson would be a nice day trip. I normally return stateside for medical reasons since Medicare pays for nothing outside of the US. For that reason I’m hoping that I don't have to return any time soon…still feeling great with only the new boobs to contend with! My family and most of my friends are in the Chicago area so I try to plan my trips during the spring, summer and fall months if possible since I would probably die a premature death from one more Chicago winter…of course that would make me a prostate cancer survivor! LoL!
BTW, I love your backyard pics of my all time favorite plant…the Saguaro! I have done much reading on how extremely fastidious they are and was amazed that they are indigenous to ONLY the Sonora Desert! So many interesting facts about them such as, taking about 10 years to reach 1 inch in height from a seed, no arms until at least 50 to 60 years, life spans up to 200 years, heights reaching 60 to 70 feet, can weigh two tons, etc. My little guy (about 6 inches tall) that I brought back to Thailand a year and half ago doesn’t appear to like its new environment; which was to be expected due to the contrast in temperatures, humidity, elevation, latitude, soil conditions, precipitation, intensity and hours of sunlight per day, plus numerous other conditions required to maintain their existence. Mine is still 'somewhat' green; however, hasn’t grown even one millimeter since I imported him. I'm more optimistic about my survival than his/her's even though their lifespan normally exceeds humans by at least double.
Keep up your great success…hope to meet you one of these days!
Sending love & best hopes from across the planet to all of my comrades,
Let’s break bread ..... We are a little bit out of the way...down a six mile dirt road. plan at least an overnight stay at our humble abode in the center of untouched and little known area.. We don’t want you to need more treatments..in order for you to come see our desert.. ..maybe we can break pad Thai in Thailand ...if you don’t have to come to Az. My new boobs are more like little bags of flab or liquid.. and sensitive at Times a twinge of pain... lovey not.. but as far as I’m concerned any day not in a drs office or in brutal pain is a good day.. I used to think that life was a race..and I was usually the hare.. now I’m the turtle ... taking time to enjoy the simple life ... Take care Ron Ron Thank for your kindness.. Scott🌵
A retreat "out of the way" sounds like a refreshing change compared to the 'hustle & bustle' of this city life here in Thailand. I spend a lot of time in my condo since driving (especially now during the 'snowbird' season) is no longer enjoyable for me. I used to love the drive on 'The 10' through AZ when I commuted between Dallas and LA; however, those days are long gone. How do you know about Thai "pad"? Obviously you're too young to have been here on R &R during Nam. I would love to have you spend some time here if you ever get the opportunity...my door is 'literally' always open and I do have a guest room for waiting for y'all. I'm alone on the 38th floor and spiderman would be the only conceivable intruder.
Regarding my boobs, my friends and I joke about them often since I view them as a small price to pay to keep the PCa at bay!
I agree on the man titties.. just an indicator that we are fembots... my wife has a cousin in bancock ... our dream to experience the Thai culture.. Picacho peak is the famous land in between Phoenix and Tucson. That’s our exit... I m a born desert tour guide. I can show you things that most Tucsonans haven’t seen. If you ever do come our way. Plan a couple days staying out with us away from city lights.. Cacti , Gila monsters , and gourmet organic Persian food .. we love it🌵
I am so very sorry for your loss Sheri, your tribute is beautiful and it's just wonderful to see that you and Chris created such a special everlasting legacy based on love and devotion which I am certain will flow down through your family. Good luck.
So very sorry to hear of dear husbands passing. what a great picture.!! Your husband looks like he was a lot of fun. I know he will be greatly missed by all who knew and loved him. Prayers for you and your family.
So sorry for you loss, may he Rest In Peace, and May you and your family find peace and comfort during these difficult times.
I am so sorry for your loss. I can feel your love for one another in your post. Devastatingly sad. I hope you can find peace in the happy memories you shared together 🙏
I too am a hockey player, though my years as a goalie are long gone, I still dream about being on the ice. I'm very sorry. I pray you find peace and comfort. We're all brothers on this page even though we squabble from time to time. Ping us if you need us. Eric
Oh Sheri - my heart breaks for you, your family and all of Chris’s friends. What a wonderful tribute you wrote and how blessed you were to have each other. After John passed 13 months ago I read this quote “I was suppose to spend the rest of my life with you, and then I realized, you spent the rest of your life with me”. And that is the greatest gift of all. Cry as often and as much as you need to. Cherish all the good memories and fun times. There really are no words that can ease your pain and sorrow right now, but know that I will continue to keep you and your family in my prayers. Lonni
Very very sincere condolences. Sounds like a great man and blessing of great love for 27 years. So many good people taken by this. Wishing for something soon to beat it - in the meantime we cherish the moments and people around us.
Please know that I still am lifting you up before the Lord, trusting that in every moment as you mourn and try to comfort your children, that He holds you up. So very sorry for the loss of the love of your life, and your written tribute is proof of the amazing man that he was. Words cannot express adequately anything I would want to say, but my heart breaks for you. Will keep praying-
Condolences, Sheri. Let me add my voice to those above: THANK YOU for being there for him. It's people like you in our lives that help us feel like we won the war even if we lose the fight. - Joe M.
I first read your post about Chris this morning before church, and shared it with my wife, so we were able to include him (and you) in our prayers. I hope they will help him wing his way to Heaven, and to console you and your family during your time of loss and grief. None of us can really begin to imagine what you are going through right now, but all of us in here can relate to what Chris went through in his all to brief battle with this monster that afflicts all of us in this forum. It’s unpredictable and scary, but Chris fought it bravely like a valiant knight, and he is a role model for the rest of us who continue the fight.
He was certainly a “Renaissance Man” if there was one. I tried playing hockey as a kid, but the stick was more like a crutch that kept me from falling on my face and eating ice. And he is the only person I have ever heard of who raced bathtubs! What a guy...great pic of him by the way. I read the article about him doing that just a few months before he passed on...a life that may have been cut short, but was well and fully lived right to the end of this (earthly) life and the passage to the next (spiritual) one. And, I pray that your tears of sorrow and sense of loss are soon transformed into smiles and laughter of happy memories of your life together.
Peace,
Mark (and Paulette...definitely my better half and the love of my life for the past 32+ years!)
He will always be with you.Its a terrible loss you have to endure so ask God for help to get through it .God will never abandon you and he will comfort you. God bless your Dad in Heaven.
Sorry for your loss , he looks like a wonderful man. I know he will live on in your heart forever.
Very beautiful Sheri.. I can’t get the image of Chris airborne in that flying tub.. out of my head.... he lived and will live on through his family and you.. Our prayers are with you in this time of transition. Scott & Sherry
Sheri, what a wonderful picture of a wonderful man. I am so sorry for you and your family’s loss. I hope your memories bring you solace. You were such a warrior for him and I know he loved you more for it. We are here for you if you need anything. Hugs, Charline
Sheri, I am so deeply sorry for your loss. I am new to this site as well and have looked for comfort from other wives and caregivers. I am amazed in the midst of life’s hardest moments that you continued to console and support others. You must be an amazing woman, surely strengthened by the devotion of Chris’ love for you. I know the days that follow will be filled with sorrows but my prayer for you is that with time your burden will be lifted and replaced entirely with peaceful thoughts and memories of the beautiful love your shared. I’m so deeply sorry for your heartbreak. I wish this dreadful monster could have been kept away from our families. Prayers lifted for you and your family.
Dear Sheri, That picture! I thought what a great smile and that sparkle In his eyes! And then I read the bathtub racing story- you were blessed with a spouse who had a zest for life. I am so sorry for your great loss. Thank you for all you’ve shared on this site. Love and a hug to you, Mary
Ohhhhh No Sheri....... Our hearts are crying with you and for you. Soooo deeply saddened and sorry for you and your family's broken and shattered hearts💔...
Hello everyone. I have been so moved by all the responses you have posted over the past days that I have been speechless.
I want to thank each and every person for the outpouring of kindness and support and private messages. Every single one has brought either smiles, tears, laughter or prayers to me and my family. This forum is so anonymous yet we are all so connected to each other and that is heartwarming.
I am humbled that msnik took time to search and find that newspaper article and that dockam -Randy has asked to add “another name” to his bibb in honour of all those we lost. Chris would be so impressed 🤗 and I will try to respond privately to all who reached out as there are amazing posts from all of you.
Lulu700-Scott you’re amazing as is your wife Sherry! Thank you 🙏
My final thoughts are to all of you. Please enjoy your life...every single day...hug those close to you...look for something positive every day, no matter how bad a day it may be...keep fighting!..don’t look for the “what if’s”...and caregivers/wives etc, be strong, love hard, hold your mans hand.
I am doing quite well. Now pursuing and caring for Chris’s sister after preventative ovarian cancer surgery! Never a dull moment in this household 😂. Ash spreading was done in the Yukon on the 6 month mark and locally last weekend with the final one August 11 with all family and close friends. So grateful to honour his wishes.
And thank you for going back to this original posting, as I had forgot what had been written and what my responses had been.
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