combined type adhd

[chrissycatt__]

im christina i was diagnosed late in life i was a guinnie pig for tons of meds that didnt work finally i gt a brain scsm as well as i spent two days with a psychologist..he gave me my diagnosis on my 42 bday it was bitter sweet on one hamd i know this stuff i do is not my fault but people have ingrained it in me that just do it do the task your lazy 😢my cousin been on ridalin since 12 but hes a boy me i was just kimda either the life of a party impulsive or a ghost i really hate this disorder im so hurtnthat allll theze drs since i wss 14didnt figure it out! thats unreal my psychologist said christina u need medicatiom management to comtrol urself so im trying

[Pro-masker]

Hi chrissycatt_ . I think you may find a few answers to your questions in my post ' Fortnightly burnout' I had similar questions and have gone through a very similar journey as you...NEVER FEEL INVALIDATED...I'm slowly starting to change my mind set with ADHD...THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT...if I could cure adhd then I would, it's cause my whole life to be an absolute cash crash...now after 4yrs post diagnoses, I'm finally starting to think of it as apart of me instead of adhd being my enemy...I have both ADHD/ADD it's sucks balls massively...going from chatty (to say the least lol) and over the top to then being very impulsive and inattentive...it's a whirl wind of a condition and there simply isn't any cure for this...why 14 yrs old? You've had this since birth we can't change it...but meds can help hugely just by your brain creating the connections between our neurons in the brain it can be a game changer...on my post Fortnighly burnout a kind person shared a video so please do have a look...it answered so many questions for me and actually breaks down what adhd is and what causes it...one of the most important steps I have made, because from there I really did realise just how ADHD effects people and soon enough my mind set started to change...carrying it will just burn you out...if self care doesn't happen then your setting yourself up to fail from the get go then burnout happens...then if you don't take that time to self care the ADHD burnout WILL lead to ADHD meltdown...this is when you start to know that self care is the best drug you can take...ive been burnt out for the last 5 days...Monday I was all over the place, although I was hanging in there thanks to the info given on my post...Sunday I nearly fell out with my mum, but we went bowling...I had to sit in the VIP section (thank God it was avaliable) burnout cause symptoms/traits to be more stronger so my sensory overload was almost a soon as I got in the building...I was being a right miserable shit...half way through the first game my whole brain just flipped and I smiled for the first time in nearly a week and i so enjoyed myself...yesterday I just rested...this one is hard because we naturally feel like we are just being lazy...NO!! we have ADHD it's not laziness i just couldnt get motivated and sat playing playstation...my mind set issue is starting to help...it's not like I chose to sit on my arse, I was just experiencing ADHD paralysis...normally I'd beat myself for it but now I'm finally accepting it I just went about my day whatever my ADHD wanted, I gave it...today I'm finally feeling refreshed and ready for the day... self care has been the one thing I NEVER did...this time my symptoms were so much more controlled as I was actually being kind to myself and not beat myself about not getting what I needed done...if my wife wasn't on side then I would absolutely be beating myself calling myself stupid, lazy and lots of others negative things...self care on top of a change in mind set really has changed everything...I can't thank this place enough...I finally realised that ADHD may make you think it's a burden but with the right mindset it becomes apart of you and not against you.

I hope you can find your happy place 😄 it's not the destination, it's the journey...so why not try to have a little fun with it...when we change our mind set everything will start to change around you...I do wish you well...you've got this

[KnightlyADHD in reply to Pro-masker]

so true, we get enough negativity as it is from those around us (at times) and it really does help to go easy on yourself.

[MissouriCats]

I was diagnosed in my early 40s as well and it has been life changing. It is hard to look back over your life and think about how it could have been different. I think it is normal to do that, sort of go through a mourning process for the life you could have had, but after a little while it is best to accept it and move on. Once you do that, you will be happier and better equipped to deal with your situation.

[Mamamichl]

My family still wont accept my diagnosis. I was diagnosed at 38. It really is hard, but there is a lot of us. You should watch how to adhd, the holderness family or adhd_love on you tube. That may help you.