Dealing with RSD

[MnMsBananaBread]

Hello community!

Thanks for taking the time to read and maybe answer this post. This is my first attempt of this nature.

I'm feeling pretty isolated and stuck. Sometimes nervous around people I like, some anxiety and mostly feeling a bit tired. It's hard to reach out when it feels like unless I do, nothing happens.

I feel like people are being polite or kind rather than enjoying my company. I have imposter syndrome on many fronts professional and private. It doesn't matter if people say they'd like to hang out or they've been supportive and reached out in the past, once they stop, I feel like if I did, I'd just be running after someone who's trying to show me they don't really want me there.

My guess is sometimes it must be true and sometimes not. I'm a bit sad to be honest and lonely so I'd love to read what you guys have to say about this.

How do you deal with rejection sensitivity dysphoria? Does my experience speak to you?

[Steph1232]

Your post speaks to me so much!I am the same way and when someone stops reaching out I feel I did something wrong or I start to hyperfocus on everything that could of been said or done by me. Then I tend to start to get angry and feel that well yeah why would they do that to me they never answer me but then I start to feel the rejection and negative thoughts in my head like maybe I am a bad friend maybe I am horrible I am stupid. I feel very alone too. I feel I have no one in my life right now. I feel I push them away sometimes knowing that I have already made up every situation in my head and then I start to just feel well they wont like me someday like everyone else so I start to push them away or distance myself in fear of that rejection. Thank you for your post and know you are not alone

[Cat00]

I was only diagnosed a couple of months ago, I'm 47 next week. So discovering the concept of RSD has been mind blowing. All this time I've tried to explain to people that I have Social Phobia because I get 'broken' by other people while at the same time crave the company of others and can be "the life and sole" of the party followed by finding it over stimulating and therefore being unable to sleep afterwards has been tedious and effectively misunderstood anyway.

RSD does explain all this which in someways is a relief but is still too alien a concept for the average person to take on board and so fundamentally you still end up misunderstood and isolated.

I have a passive aggressive kung fu teacher who lacks empathy, although he does try he's unable to do it, but there is no point me saying to him "I have RSD so even though I'm older than you, can you treat me like you like a small child who is easily frightened please?".

Effectively I still have to pretend to be normal anyway if I want to do kung fu or anything else in life.

Although I did read yesterday that Guanfacine might be helpfull for people with RSD so I will be inquiring about that.....

[Mamamichl]

I feel your feelings. I react to them a bit different though. Instead of holding myself back, my body pushes forward and I’ve been told it’s too “in your face” and raises anxieties of others.