please help me my life is so overwhelming

[Tenley_Vega]

where do i start? My inbox is overflowing and my laptop is dead. What little I knew how to do I have no idea how to do it on my phone. My storage is overflowing a

So I’m not backing up photos and videos of my daughter.

My house is a fucking mess. I can’t keep it clean and organized. We just bought it and it needs work. It’s overwhelming and I hate it.

I can’t keep track of everything I need to do. Cleaning, organizing, putting clothes away, caring for my baby, dog, my relationships.

I can’t hold down a job. There is too much to list and I can’t handle it anymore. Nothing helps. I’m drowning.

[Shelley11]

Hello Telnet, I live in Queensland, Australia in an area that is mainly natural bush. I don’t have close neighbours I can see. It might seem like a good place to be but at age 62 I am still that unorganised person who is always late and forgets to hang out the washing.

I think we are the way we are because our brain works differently to other people who are neuro typical. I believe we need a professional person to come into our home to help us manage time better.

The reason I say that is because I only have 2 times set in my mind that I recognise. That is DAY TIME & NIGHT TIME.

I remember how hard it was when I had young children. Now they are grown up and doing good. They are married and have children. My son is Vice Principal at age 34. He also trains horses.

My point is that kids grow up pretty quick. Can their dad help out? Put yourself first and do what you think you need to get your stress under control. If that means spending money on yourself DO IT.

You are worth it. Invest in yourself because when the chaos stops it’s just you on your own in the end.

Your children will be fine. Love them lots but love yourself too.

Best wishes from Michelle

[Mamamichl]

It’s very normal for us to doom say, and it sounds to me your post is definitely on one of those spirals. I hope you have anxiety meds that work. You may want to look into emergency anxiety meds as well.

It helps me to write down things that I need to do sometimes. If you get a room cleaned, write what tasks you needed to do for it, and take a pic of it that way. It is a good goal for breaking it into smaller tasks.

It sounds like you may have too much on your plate too. What things can you delegate to someone else? Get a maid to clean once a month, a sitter for the dogs or kids once in a while? Maybe see if you can find someone to help fix up the house. If anything, make sure you have a bit of time regularly to try and decompress away from the stresses of life.

[MaudQ]

The house, the dog, the job, the kid - it’s a lot!! I get that sense of overwhelm too and it’s horrible. You don’t say how old your daughter is? If she’s really young you have to cut yourself some slack, if she’s older, maybe she could help. Do you have a partner who helps out? Anything you can delegate, automate or delete, you should. Paper plates, take out, dog walker … At least just while you’re really underwater. Are you taking medication? Seeing a therapist (who understands ADHD)? Reframing helps too. Folding laundry is for suckers! If the laundry is clean, people can dig through the pile or fold it themselves. The world will keep on turning. You might like these books: How to Keep House While Drowning, Organizing Solutions for People With ADHD and The Queen of Distraction. This article really helped me too: verywellmind.com/how-embrac...

[LuisBarcelona]

Loads of love!

When we got frustrated and angry, sharing and feeling the anger helps us. Here we are. Those moments are very normal with all the fronts that you desire you want to work on and change.

And after sharing and overload, I would start with what I know I have the best chance of success to reinforce us and move on to the next one step by strep.

I decided to throw away practically everything I didn't use at home and in my job. A good friend of mine helped me with a good organization system. And now everything flows a little easier but I have also my moments.

Remember that we will work and being productive some days, but today or this week it hasn't be our days. I love the article love your mess because it is part of us.

Hugs