Hi Everyone,
I have lately realized that the moment I sit down or don't have anything to do, I become lethargic and sad. It takes so much effort to get back up again. As long as I am moving and occupied, I am happy. Does this happen to everyone? Or is this a 'me' thing?🤔
If so, how do you deal with it?
Thanks in advance😃😃
Hi Daisy. Yes, It's the same thing for me. I will also will make list at work of things I need or want to do, but once I get home I loose interest (the energy, feel discouraged) to do/start them. I notice this is worse when I try to do some or several things, and they don't work out right, and it seems they're never going to be resolved no matter what I do. (I want to do what I need to do, do it, and then it's over, and then I can go on to another 'To Do' Item). Then there's work, and life's other 'stuff'. Recently, when this does come up, I try to just go for a walk and I usually feel better. But, that's IF I turn off the TV, and get off the couch!
Depression adds to it(?). At times life beats up on you, or 'Gangs Up' up on you, and I feel beaten down. After while, it's like 'what's the use?' Then I give up on more things and get farther behind. But eventually I get it finished. Sorry, 1 more thing. Being ADD--- Boredom with usual (boring!) I’m interested in what others have say.
Thank you for responding. I can absolutely relate to the walk part. It's just the getting off the couch part that is SO tough. I hope you find a way to deal with this and have fewer of THOSE days.☺️
You described a very common thing for many of us. When not at home, I am occupied.Once I get home, I do become lethargic and can feel sad.
If I know that a person will show up at my house, I tend to get energy. I have tried to say yes more often when a neighbor asks if I want to walk with them. External stimuli can trigger my brain to get going.
I tend to decline any invites once I’m home. Realizing that I don’t want to stay home feeling sad, I’ve started taking small steps to change. Just baby steps.
I finally opened up to a neighbor and described my ADHD symptoms. Verbalizing about my “feeling sad /being stuck” to a person that I know won’t judge me has helped. When the person texts and wants to walk or do something, I try to say yes. And little by little, I’m finding that I can change the amount of time I feel sad.
I believe it has to do with the chemicals that stimulate the brain. Learning more about the weak areas of executive functions for me.
There is a book titled “Brain Hacks”, that has made me aware how to get better at doing things to “get started” and build a routine in my evenings.
Hopefully others will post with how they cope.
Those are some great suggestions, KarlaJo! Thank you so much! I am ordering the book right now.
Oh yeah, that’s me, usually if I’m sitting for more than an hour. My wife wonders why I won’t just lounge & binge TV with her, and the best I can explain it is that it’s just “not comfortable” and she doesn’t get it. I need to stretch and move and do things to keep my mind from going into dozing/lethargy zone.
Absolutely! It drives my roommates crazy too! And also makes them feel guilty for not doing as much as I do. But that's the only way I function, in extremes. Thanks, ADHD!🙂🙂🙂
Hi Daisy!
Yep. That's me - I call it being frozen. My brain is either busy and I can't move or my brain is offline and I can't move. Either state happens when I sit after work or for too long or I'm overwhelmed. My partner gets frustrated when I'm stuck on my phone, frozen - but she doesn't realize that my brain is going a zillion miles and hour and I'm not able to move. Eventually, I come around and I feel the shame, again.
I'm just starting my journey to find the right mix of meds and coping skills and I'm reassured that I'll find it.
I hope you have good support and are working with a psychiatrist - it makes all the difference.
My Psychiatrist has been a great help for me. I switched from Adderall to Vyvanse a couple of weeks ago and I think it has really helped with the evening crash. Not completely though. But some progress is better than no progress at all! I hope you find the right balance😊
I totally can relate to this. I struggle with it too. I was diagnosed about a year ago @59; shortly after quitting my job and moving to a new state. It was like my whole world imploded. I couldn't manage to accomplish anything with any kind of speed. It took almost a year to unpack. I'm not lying. I have found that if I have a routine I manage to produce. Left to my own devices I can sit in exactly the same spot for HOURS and then wonder what happened to the day. Add to that, no meds have worked for me.
I am so sorry you had to go so long before getting diagnosed. But glad you are finally getting the help you need. It makes a world of difference. I have been told having an accountability partner helps. Perhaps, that could help you. P.S.- I was alone for a weekend and spent the entire time sitting on the couch watching Disney movies.
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thanks for that. it is good just to know what's going on with me and to understand that i'm not alone. i am actually scheduled to try neurofeedback since the meds havent worked for me. i looked for ADHD support here to no avail, this is what i found and it is said to help. we shall see... stay tuned. lol
I really hope neuro feed back works for you!!😊😊
Something similar happens to me, but it’s ANYTIME I sit down…I had to get a standing desk for work, I eat all of my meals standing, pretty much, once I’m up in the morning, I don’t” sit “again until I go to bed. If I do…I’m instantly tired, falling asleep, and nothing I do can get me out of that…it’s so frustrating
That sounds so difficult. I am sorry you are having to go through this.
Thank you, I have yet to mention it to my psych but I’m guessing that is for my next appointment. Hopefully they can shed some light on this.
Looking for changes I can implement right now to manage ADHD (not on meds yet)
How do you stay productive and diciplined when dealing with ADHD?
I can't imagine how a typical brain works.
Getting an actual diagnosis
