Hi Everyone,
I have lately realized that the moment I sit down or don't have anything to do, I become lethargic and sad. It takes so much effort to get back up again. As long as I am moving and occupied, I am happy. Does this happen to everyone? Or is this a 'me' thing?🤔
If so, how do you deal with it?
Thanks in advance😃😃
Hi Daisy. Yes, It's the same thing for me. I will also will make list at work of things I need or want to do, but once I get home I loose interest (the energy, feel discouraged) to do/start them. I notice this is worse when I try to do some or several things, and they don't work out right, and it seems they're never going to be resolved no matter what I do. (I want to do what I need to do, do it, and then it's over, and then I can go on to another 'To Do' Item). Then there's work, and life's other 'stuff'. Recently, when this does come up, I try to just go for a walk and I usually feel better. But, that's IF I turn off the TV, and get off the couch!
Depression adds to it(?). At times life beats up on you, or 'Gangs Up' up on you, and I feel beaten down. After while, it's like 'what's the use?' Then I give up on more things and get farther behind. But eventually I get it finished. Sorry, 1 more thing. Being ADD--- Boredom with usual (boring!) I’m interested in what others have say.
Thank you for responding. I can absolutely relate to the walk part. It's just the getting off the couch part that is SO tough. I hope you find a way to deal with this and have fewer of THOSE days.☺️
You described a very common thing for many of us. When not at home, I am occupied.Once I get home, I do become lethargic and can feel sad.
If I know that a person will show up at my house, I tend to get energy. I have tried to say yes more often when a neighbor asks if I want to walk with them. External stimuli can trigger my brain to get going.
I tend to decline any invites once I’m home. Realizing that I don’t want to stay home feeling sad, I’ve started taking small steps to change. Just baby steps.
I finally opened up to a neighbor and described my ADHD symptoms. Verbalizing about my “feeling sad /being stuck” to a person that I know won’t judge me has helped. When the person texts and wants to walk or do something, I try to say yes. And little by little, I’m finding that I can change the amount of time I feel sad.
I believe it has to do with the chemicals that stimulate the brain. Learning more about the weak areas of executive functions for me.
There is a book titled “Brain Hacks”, that has made me aware how to get better at doing things to “get started” and build a routine in my evenings.
Hopefully others will post with how they cope.
Those are some great suggestions, KarlaJo! Thank you so much! I am ordering the book right now.
Oh yeah, that’s me, usually if I’m sitting for more than an hour. My wife wonders why I won’t just lounge & binge TV with her, and the best I can explain it is that it’s just “not comfortable” and she doesn’t get it. I need to stretch and move and do things to keep my mind from going into dozing/lethargy zone.
Absolutely! It drives my roommates crazy too! And also makes them feel guilty for not doing as much as I do. But that's the only way I function, in extremes. Thanks, ADHD!🙂🙂🙂
Hi Daisy!
Yep. That's me - I call it being frozen. My brain is either busy and I can't move or my brain is offline and I can't move. Either state happens when I sit after work or for too long or I'm overwhelmed. My partner gets frustrated when I'm stuck on my phone, frozen - but she doesn't realize that my brain is going a zillion miles and hour and I'm not able to move. Eventually, I come around and I feel the shame, again.
I'm just starting my journey to find the right mix of meds and coping skills and I'm reassured that I'll find it.
I hope you have good support and are working with a psychiatrist - it makes all the difference.
My Psychiatrist has been a great help for me. I switched from Adderall to Vyvanse a couple of weeks ago and I think it has really helped with the evening crash. Not completely though. But some progress is better than no progress at all! I hope you find the right balance😊
I totally can relate to this. I struggle with it too. I was diagnosed about a year ago @59; shortly after quitting my job and moving to a new state. It was like my whole world imploded. I couldn't manage to accomplish anything with any kind of speed. It took almost a year to unpack. I'm not lying. I have found that if I have a routine I manage to produce. Left to my own devices I can sit in exactly the same spot for HOURS and then wonder what happened to the day. Add to that, no meds have worked for me.
I am so sorry you had to go so long before getting diagnosed. But glad you are finally getting the help you need. It makes a world of difference. I have been told having an accountability partner helps. Perhaps, that could help you. P.S.- I was alone for a weekend and spent the entire time sitting on the couch watching Disney movies.
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thanks for that. it is good just to know what's going on with me and to understand that i'm not alone. i am actually scheduled to try neurofeedback since the meds havent worked for me. i looked for ADHD support here to no avail, this is what i found and it is said to help. we shall see... stay tuned. lol
I really hope neuro feed back works for you!!😊😊
Something similar happens to me, but it’s ANYTIME I sit down…I had to get a standing desk for work, I eat all of my meals standing, pretty much, once I’m up in the morning, I don’t” sit “again until I go to bed. If I do…I’m instantly tired, falling asleep, and nothing I do can get me out of that…it’s so frustrating
That sounds so difficult. I am sorry you are having to go through this.
Thank you, I have yet to mention it to my psych but I’m guessing that is for my next appointment. Hopefully they can shed some light on this.
HELP!!!! Some of my close family members are not supporting my choice to use Adderall for my ADHD....
ADHD: Painfully Downhearted and hopelessFeeling intense and tooth gritting , both on and off my medicineRecently diagnosed with ADHD at 35
recently diagnosed with ADHD and GAD. But worried about misdiagnosis.
