I am new to this space, diagnosed with ADHD recently. I have always had a difficult time keeping staying employed at desk jobs. Now I know why. I am sad, glad, and everything in between. I need others to tell me I am not alone in this and that I can have a stable work life some day.
Thank you.
You are certainly not alone! I can relate. One of the most difficult times in my career has been when I was in a desk job.
I currently work in tech support. The pace, the novelty, and the fact that I get to get up and mine l move all help me to stay engaged and motivated in my work. (I'm still not perfect, and never will be, but I'm much more fulfilled than I was before I had this job.
Thank you for sharing your story.
I have had at least 5 different desk jobs in 10 years. I am about to get fired (again). I recognize the difficulty my employers might be facing in dealing with me... but I want to tell them I try. I try really really hard. But I fail. I fail so badly. Each and every time. How can I convey that I am not a bad person, I am not lazy, or someone with a bad work ethics. I am just me. I have a condition that prevents me to fir in that box that everyone thinks "normal". I am not normal.
Sorry, if I got carried away. I am new to this. I am processing. I am learning. About myself... in a new way.
I hear you. Hell for me is having a desk job while unknowingly having ADHD. Somehow I got lucky and realized this early on ... though I didn't know why. I had a great paying office job in college. I hated it. Would run out and go for walks.
Ended up taking a job at a library cafe serving coffee and bagels-loved it. Could talk to people, move around, stand and on and on. Had no idea that ADHD was at issue.
People who have ADHD and desk jobs--my heart goes out to them. The desk job can wear them out, they can get bad reviews, spouses don't understand, spouses criticize, ADHD person feels insecure. Hang in there.
Are you currently in a desk job?
I'm sorry, you are going through this. It really sux when it feels that you aren't in control and at the mercy of ADHD. It looks like laziness and lack of care but we know that this isn't the case. It makes me sad thinking about the opportunities that I had lost whilst I was struggling to function. Are you seeing a Psychiatrist for treatment? It has made all the difference and I can finally live a pretty normal life. Good luck!
You are definitely not alone. I did manage to keep my job for thirteen years, I don't know how honestly. I think I would have fired me. I was hoping to work another good ten years without having to look for a new job, and retire at 62, but the pandemic came and I had to leave the position due to my heart issues and people coming up positive. They said I could re-apply but they didn't really want me and dodged the email. The place is very chaotic and not in the digital age yet and it was really to much responsibility for one person and I am a very chaotic person who works extremely hard. It was way to stressful, and literally to much heaving and hauling. Lots of crying in the file room, which then became public and I had know where to cry.
You’re not alone! Everything said might not feel helpful. I think that we NEED to treat ourselves with a degree of compassion. I’d love to “arrive” quickly at the finish line. It’s just not the reality for anyone, much less people who are dealing with ADHD. It’s a process. I actually feel a certain amount of frustration hearing that. It stinks, but it’s honest. We can’t run before we walk. The important things are properly getting diagnosed, having support, therapy or an ADHD coach, realizing that we’re blessed with so much more information right at our fingertips than ever before, and knowing that you’re not defective! We’re not alone. There are others who can understand us.
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