Finally got paperwork to see a Therapist.

[Codebox42]

The other day I finally got some paperwork mailed to me about visiting an actual therapist on the 31st of May. And needless to say I'm excited for it! I wan this to be a shot that I can finally get some help for my problems after all this time. Even if ADHD never truly goes away, I just want a more manageable life where it's not just me watching other people do things that I also want to experience or have to be handed things simply because of poor motorskills or communication. If this doesn't work out, honestly might just give up. But anyways, wish me luck though guys. Can anyone recommend how having treatment has changed you? Or how exactly does the treatment work?

[lkrportland]

TREATMENT DEFINITELY WORKS! I really appreciate you sharing your feelings, because even though I'm alot older, I still go through those same dilemmas. I look "bewildered" in groups (precise feedback from loved ones)

I didn't get treated at your age. You are so smart to get on it now. You have TONS OF TIME to turn your life around. High school is just a blip on the radar of your life.

Precise evaluation and thorough testing by a qualified specialist is a MUST. Treatment is usually a combination of self-help, cognitive behavioral therapy (individual and/or group), medication. All of this equals changing how you look at things and how you do things. It means knowing the tools you need, what's too much (right now). It means will might take you longer to accomplish your goals, BUT you WILL accomplish them with the right treatment and support.

I don't function well without medication. Some people don't want to take it. Everyone talks about the benefits of mindfulness practices = focus on where you are now - and now - and now; going inside to find peace and connection. I've been advised to try walking meditations.

I agree with the person who said to ask people about themselves and observe them, to choose people who are more kind, accepting and patient. I have to consciously make an effort to acknowledge other people in the room, especially when I am hyper-focused. I feel like it shouldn't be such a "chore" to ask say good morning to people when I walk in the door at work, but some days it is.

I frequently change the subject abruptly when listening to a friend share - they have to get used to that and I have to learn how to cut that down. That kind of thing.

Watch these videos: HowtoADHD on YouTube. She has done incredible research and outreach, will make you feel so much more successful. She points out that if you are short, you need a stool to reach the top shelf, but you can reach it. You don't stand there and say I can't do that because I'm short. Same with ADHD. I'm trying to take that approach.

KEEP GOING.