help with sis in law giving my husband her parenting “Opinion”

[Willowbee37]

my sis in law is my age, has 4 small kids and they are WILD. Their youngest is always trying to wrestle my 10yr old and doesn’t know when to stop. My husband, her and her kids went to dinner. I was at home sick. She called him the next day to tell him she didn’t appreciate some of my son’s jokes he said. He said something about it being a “Diddy party” he has no clue was that is obviously. Inappropriate, yes. My husband corrected him and that was that. She brought it up the next day again and I’m just, annoyed. Her kids are terrible and we leave events and laugh about it but never feel it necessary to tell her we don’t appreciate your kid constantly attacking our kid, or how her 8yr old girl talks about twerking while doing the splits. They are kids, I’ll correct then if need be and we will distance ourself but I’m not trying to make phone call about it.

I’m just annoyed. My son says something wrong once and everyone is all over us but can overlook the rest of the kids behavior.

I feel like saying something to her but my husband said not to.