Issues at school

[BVBV]

Looking for some advice.

My son is in 4th grade and has struggled greatly this year at school. Most all of his struggles are outside his homeroom class. He’s always had great homeroom teachers and he/we have always had a good relationship with those teachers (play dates with their kids outside of school, birthday parties, his teacher last year said he was her favorite student). The staff outside his class are not supportive, and are untrained to deal with ADHD kids. For example, I got a call from the school nurse this week to pick him up because he was freaking out in her room. He had gotten injured at recess and was bleeding through his pants. I know her to be very rude to students and I’m sure she showed him little empathy. He said he was just crying and told the nurse he needed a minute to remove his pants and she took that as he refused treatment. He’s also had 2 run ins with a new special Ed teacher that said he pushed her when trying to get out of her office; I have no clue how these situations are escalated as he doesn’t act like that at home. Our district now has 5th graders going to Middle School due to no space in the Elementary schools and I am fearful that next year will be even worse with more exposure to staff that could potentially escalate situations. How have people navigated dealing with unsupportive staff outside of their actual teachers? My son has an IEP and is “under the microscope” already. It’s amazing that neurotypical kids are cursing, flipping the bird, and that’s OK but if my son cries because he’s hurt it’s just too much to handle.

[Aspen797]

I’m so sorry your son is experiencing those upsets with people that don’t get him. It is great that you have teachers who do get him and with whom you have a good rapport!. Depending on your relationship, perhaps you can ask them to write a brief note that you can give to next year’s teachers that summarizes what they have found works for your child and what does not. You may also seek their help and ask what accommodations they think might be added to help his interactions with others go more smoothly.

We made our own ‘ All About Me’ one pager that highlights our child’s strengths and areas of need (IEP goal stuff) and what works for them (accommodations) and what doesn’t (triggers). A template is here: adayinourshoes.com/all-abou.... We used this for the first time in middle school because there were so many teachers, but it probably would have helped in elementary if we hadn’t already had a sped teacher advocating for him to others.

[Alt49]

no advice but a lot of this is very familiar. I’m at a loss myself