Hi all,
I'm so grateful to have this platform to connect with other parents going through or who have gone through “THE STRUGGLE”! Thank you in advance for the advice ❤️
My son is a good-natured 9th grader. He has ADD as well as a moderate learning disability. He has no issues with defiance or aggression, however, he has challenges with attention and focus. And starting this school year, as a result of a particular teacher, he is experiencing a fair amount of anxiety. He just recently shared with me the extent of his anxiety which includes very uncomfortable stomach aches.
These symptoms start the period before class, where there is a teacher who is not kind in any way. My son and his friends say she often calls my son out, saying things like “do you understand this now?” and that she is often sarcastic and really rides these kids hard. The interesting thing is she's a younger teacher and it's not like she has burnout... apparently this is just her style, which does nothing to endear any of the kids to her. In my sons case, it's becoming debilitating and that makes me furious.
I’ve not had a conversation with her about my son’s LD or ADHD however the school is well aware...it’s a very small Episcopal private school. Which also means he does not receive any formal accommodations. He has been given grace to finish his work after class and is welcome to come for additional help before and after school. I've tried to have his homework load reduced but the school administration will not budge as they are a “private prep school”.
Mainly, what I'm looking for help with is the conversation I'm planning to have with his teacher. She is outspoken, and quick-witted and I myself have ADHD. I want to go into her room and give her a tongue-lashing in the most eloquent way, while also delivering a message that will soften her to my son. The problem is my inability to communicate without stumbling over my words. Maybe I should write her an email? I do have a close friend who is a writer and willing to help when I need it.
Any thoughts or advice would be helpful ❤️