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I am curious..if you could say one positive thing about the school ( any type of school) your child attends, what would it be?

Curious does the teacher for your child use a social media accounts (Instragram, Twitter, Facebook, etc.) to communicate with you? If they are in high school, does any of their teacher use social media to communicate?

If not would you like that?

Thanks...

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kdali

Resources. No use of social media platforms.

I’d say one positive thing about my son’s school is that he actually loves the teachers and he loves going to school even though he was bullied and even though teachers failed him- not stopped bullying in time. His teachers are smiley and not demanding much of him hence he’s underperforming. He told me the other day that he likes school because he doesn’t have to do anything there and at home he hates it because I make him do things like maths and all.

I think this just sums up the ADHD brain. He likes good time and he doesn’t think of consequences such as what’s next, which secondary school can I go to if I don’t bother to work harder….

As for social media- of course I would not like teachers contacting me in such way. I would say I’d report it to the school if the teacher contacted me on Facebook.

We have our school setting their own ‘media’ way to communicate with parents so we have weekly bulletin and a system of secure emails where we can reply etc. it’s very controlled so we cant even directly email a teacher- it has to be going through the main office and they distribute emails then to a teacher in question.

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Trying1978

Our Elementary School (all I have experience with so far, K-3) is great at working with parents from the administrative side! I've heard horror stories on here and at other places, but admin is pretty warm and welcoming so far.

I WISH we had some kind of social media communication.

For us, it really depends on the teacher, and it's all email. Last year, my two ADHD kiddos had teachers who emailed me back at the drop of a hat, and it was awesome because the doctor, therapist, and I could look at those emails and get constant "objective" feedback on how treatment was progressing. I mean, I'm sure I was annoying with too many emails. (I'm a professor, and I get way too much email, too!) But this year, I'm lucky to get a response at all 😐

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Shamasamdrew

I would love to have something positive to say about my son’s school, but honestly, I can’t think of anything. The closest thing I can think of is as part of his transition to post high school, they have hooked us up with our state’s vocational rehab. program and I think that is beneficial, but that is not all his school’s doing. Transition planning is part of any 504 or IEP and vocational rehab is in every state so it is not special to my son’s school.

As far as social media is concerned, our teachers do not communicate that way and I am grateful for that. It would be one more thing I’d have to check and quite frankly, I don’t need one more thing.

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Onthemove1971 in reply to Shamasamdrew

Thanks for sharing and letting me know about the social media.

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SurvivorFan

Fortunately, I have nothing but great things to say about my son's school. Everyone from the principal, main room teacher, IEP team, music, and gym teacher want him to succeed and are so supportive not only of him but of my parenting. Everyone has bounced ideas off of eachother on how to best support him in the hard moments and because of this he has a pretty great IEP written up for him:) Best of all, I never worry if he is being mistreated or left behind. His teacher uses a messaging system called Seesaw to communicate. It just comes up like a new text message alert on either of our phones if we need to ask eachother a question throughout the day. She is also able to post to the class as a whole, assignments and videos. I would prefer to keep it a separate messaging system going forward vs. social media.

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Onthemove1971 in reply to SurvivorFan

I am so happy that you are having a positive experience with your child's school.

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Mickeylang

They make my child feel like part of the school. He doesnt feel separated just because he's different. He's in 5th grade with ADHD and a few other things. He also is not on meds. We communicate through email, conference if need be, and phone call. We attend a private school.

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Onthemove1971 in reply to Mickeylang

it is wonderful that your child feels connected to the classroom, this is so important.

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eva2022

The school explicitly teaches emotional regulation. Focus on inclusion and how our differences make us stronger. Focus on kindness. Very supportive teachers/admin that work with us as parents.

Would love…more academic rigor but I am a teacher turned stay at home mom, so I can provide that for my children at home.

I prefer to be contacted via email.

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Onthemove1971 in reply to eva2022

This is wonderful! I wish all schools taught emotional regulation, all kids need this.

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Kd1970

My daughter's school allows her to eat lunch in the library after we complained. She was spending the entire lunch period in the bathroom because of sensory overload. When we complained, they arranged for her to eat her lunch in the library. It was such a relief to us and really made us feel that they cared and that they would take action when action was needed.

None of her teachers communicate through social media. We get weekly emails from the school about upcoming events. We have gotten email from various teachers about matters specific to our daughter but nothing on social media. The school has social media accounts that I follow. Often the school posts about a classroom activity on Facebook, which I check to see if my daughter's class has been highlighted. Each class that she takes has its own page. The platform used at my daughter's school is itsLearning. The school I teach at uses eClass. Lots of teachers at both school like Google Classroom and will link their Google Classroom on their class pages (whether on itsLearning or eClass). These platforms allow for teacher/class as well as peer to peer communication.

I hope that answers the questions. :)

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Onthemove1971 in reply to Kd1970

Wonderful to hear that they made exceptions for your daughter. Wonderful she has a safe place to eat her lunch.

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Brazilianmom

my son’s school has been great . His counselor mediates with him every morning before his day starts . The resource teacher walks by the class to see if she things he needs an extra break . His teacher communicates with me often and was very willing to tailor her behavior chart to him . He is in forts grande

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penn_adhd

No, they shouldn't use social media to connect. The school uses Google Classroom and they contact the kids that way. With parents they use email generally.

Our principal doesn't put up with bullying.

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ADHD_DAD

You know that we switched my son to a small, private school for high school. It has been amazing! The most accurate statement I can make (which distinguishes it from the public school) is that they want him to succeed. At the public school, we had to fight for every accommodation or change and there was constant push back from the teachers and their union that they could not be "made" to do these things (which, of course, they can). His current school just does these things because they are reasonable things he needs to succeed (and he does; he excels!). As for communication, they have armed him with the confidence to advocate for himself and ask for help and very little direct communication with us has been necessary. When it is, they email us to set up a meeting, and we go there and talk directly to the teacher. They provide a remote option, but we attend live when safe for all. Sending my son to this school was his mom's idea and I was originally opposed. Expense aside, I felt like I was fighting at the public school not only for my son, but for all kids like him who want to succeed but just need reasonable accommodations to do so. I felt like I was giving up and abandoning the cause. However, she was 100% right (and I was wrong), the "cause" was and is my son, and he is now a confident learner and a good student. As a bonus, he loves his school and going to school.

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