I am 48 years old, and I adopted my son at birth with the knowledge that his birth father had a severe case of ADHD, combined presentation. During his daycare days, the provider always said she had never seen a child show his amount of anger at such a young age, but I did not think much about it, until he was walking around and would randomly strike other kids for no apparent reason. Once I started paying attention, I found that there were other things like the fact that he seemed to have no fear, never would sit still for anything, and seemed to fixate on certain toys or shows. One day the daycare provider called and stated that something needed to change. I called the pediatrician and scheduled a COVID zoom meeting with him, the daycare provider and myself. He asked many questions and finally said he believed that he could have autism and needed to be assessed.
CDS contacted me and the whirlwind of appointments and calls started. In May, CDS's final decision was that he had ADHD and needed an IEP before entering preschool, which was discussed and done. Then everyone disappeared and no one talked to me about what he needed. They were just gone. I knew that my son had a well child visit coming so I didn't get to scared and just let things role, trying the best I could to initiate a schedule, and positive discipline, though I never knew exactly what I was supposed to do. When we visited the pediatrician, I mentioned that I would like hear my treatment options for the ADHD and he instantly wrote me script for Ritalin, 2.5 ml twice a day. There was no discussion or anything.
Now for the reason I have poured my story here....there is something that does not sit right with me about putting a 4 year old on meds without trying any other options first. I am not naïve and I know that there will come a time that he will probably need meds, but at 4, it just doesn't seem right. Would love to hear some personal insights on this, as I am feeling alone in this process, and I need to learn about this diagnosis so I can advocate appropriately for my precious little man!
Thanks for reading this far, and I am ready for some truths