My twin 10 y/o daughters were diagnosed with ADHD back when they were 5, we tried meds...they were TERRIBLE went through 3 different medications...all of them BAD...completely changed their whole personality so we took them off the meds completely.
The end of last year we had them retested, testing was actually for learning disabilities, ADHD was re-diagnosed as well as dyslexia.
My wife and I have never really dealt with ADHD, to be very transparent, I feel like I'm being punished. I used to thing that ADHD was myth or a copout b/c parents didn't want to discipline their children. OKAY, I GET IT...I was SO wrong, can we just be done!? I KNOW, it doesn't work like that.
I'm learning more and more. Impulse control, they don't have it. They say, do, or don't do almost anything...Chores are a joke. I love my kids, my wife too...but they are hard kids!
This is going to sound bad, IT makes me ANGRY...not my kids, but the whole thing...ADHD makes me angry. I'm learning it's not their fault. To the point that I'm seeing a therapist. While dealing with my own anger, he's educating me on ADHD which is helping, to a point. I struggle with where does the line get drawn between impulse control, chores, etc and ADHD being a crutch for them to not do what they don't want to do. Turns out I may have ADHD, per the therapist, but he's talking PTSD to boot. When I lose my cool, I feel like I'm failing my kids...
So, yeah, there's that...this was not my intention when I logged on here this morning. I just want my kids to thrive despite ME...I'm working on me, so whatever has to happen to get mine and their crap together, we'll do it...I feel like I'm losing mine most of the time.
Thanks for reading have a BLESSED day!
Kudos Kudos Kudos to you for seeking therapy to deal with the challenges life is throwing you. Really good job, Dad.
I have found a non-drug method that is helping us. It's not that well known you may not have heard of it. We are going to the doctors at mensahmedical.com. They optimize cognitive health with diet, vitamins and amino acids. In our family we saw complete reversal of depression, suicidality (only when our son ate dyes), lessening of anxiety. Our son lost his High Functioning Autism diagnosis. GFCFDF diet made sensory sensitivity much much less. This diet is also recommended for ADHD kids. In our house, it was immediately obvious we parents had to go on the diet too if we were restricting our kid's food intake. Mensah Medical's method has worked really well for our son and made my ADHD symptoms much more manageable so far. The method has also eliminated hair-trigger anger and lashing out in my husband, thank God. I am expecting more improvement in my own ADHD because my numbers are still high--will be looking into diet with their nutritionist to see if I can move faster towards my optimal numbers.
I sought out this method (found out about it through the book Nutrient Power by Bill Walsh) because our son was suffering from bouts of suicidality only when he ate dyes starting at age 7. At age 13 the writing was on the wall and I was desperate. I wasn't going to be able to keep him from hurting himself much longer since he was destined to be 6'3".
So grateful I found this method that continues to help our whole family.
Best of luck to you! Hang in there I know things will improve.