My first time reaching out

[Reflection4]

Hi, I am a new member. I have 4 children ages 7, 5, 4, and 2. My 7 year old and my 5 year old have been diagnosed with ADHD along with a possible secondary diagnosis which is still being determined at this time. My 4 year old shows similar characteristics but has not yet been evaluated. I am looking for a place to share our experiences and to hear the experiences of others as I often feel alone on this journey and am always seeking information and ideas on how to navigate our way.

[Olenny]

Hey there, My son is 6 and we both have ADHD. I just joined this community to be able to talk with someone who understands. We are both more on hyperactive side. Just had a 30 minutes tantrum after he spilled tea on his shirt... Do you guys have these situations often?

[Reflection4 in reply to Olenny]

Hi. My 7 year old son is more likely to have an outburst like that if one of his siblings spill something or if he’s trying to draw or create something and he just can’t get it the way he wants. For him an outburst looks like him yelling and throwing things. Maybe even trying to hit others or hitting walls. What does it look like for your son?

[Olenny in reply to Reflection4]

Sorry for the delay with the answer, I got carried away with my life))) Yeah, definitely same kind of behavior when something is not going his way. Very sensitive to failure and to pressure. From my own experience of having ADHD I feel like it is just very difficult for him to manage the change in the environment - like he doesn't know how to react to that and he needs time to adjust and to calm down. It's getting better as he is growing. But I know that it will be a part of his personality throughout his life. He needs to be understood. Do you feel like it's draining you? Knowing the reason do you treat him differently?))

[RichSeitzOceanNJ]

you will get great advice on here. Mine is to introduce your schools to Pax GBG but that's difficult. What you can do at home are some behavioral strategies that have been proven to work. See Pax Tools online for parents.

Pax Tools intro

youtube.com/watch?v=t952q7_(Not working as expected?)

BJLE

Pax Breaks

youtu.be/0KgkB8LOgAg(Not working as expected?)

Working from home

youtube.com/watch?v=DYsx5FB...(Not working as expected?)

[Olenny in reply to RichSeitzOceanNJ]

Thank you very much! Anything is helpful now)) As I am learning to regulate my own behavior at the same time.