Excluding kids with disabilities organization

[Faithinlove423]

While most organizations preach the commitment to non discrimination, an extra curricular group that my daughter is involved in, is seeming to not be inclusive (despite their core values at state level). They’re demanding that we sign a Code of Conduct that uses terminology such as the child will not “behave in a way that monopolizes the adult volunteers time” and “appropriately responds to adults” and “will remain seated.” If we do not sign the Code of Conduct, my daughter will likely not be able to participate. I offered to help make amendments, for any girls that have a disability beyond their control, that would be inclusive and fair, but was denied. I reached out to a local mediation organization for assistance, but have been unable to connect. I emailed my local CHADD office and am awaiting a reply. Since an IEP doesn’t apply to this organization (a nationally accredited and well loved group in most communities), I am having a hard time fighting anything. Any advice would be appreciated!

[Pennywink]

Is the Code of Conduct part of the national policy, or is it specific to this charter group only? If so, you may be able to find another charter group in your area that is more understanding.

What are their policies if the code is broken?

How old is your child and what treatment options is she currently receiving for her ADHD?

Many organizations are volunteer based and may not have the training or resources required to help a child with ADHD be successful in their organization. Perhaps talking to the leaders and volunteering to be that special person to be present and help your child at group functions.

[ADHD_DAD]

This sounds like the BSA (formerly boy scouts). My son's prior troop was just like what you describe. They insisted upon draconian compliance with seemingly unnecessary rules and despite their claim of inclusiveness were very intolerant to any disability affecting behavior. I was so fed up that I had planned to force them to be more inclusive. Unfortunately, the law considers them to be a private club (like a country club) and, therefore, exempt from rules requiring inclusion and diversity. For us, the answer was to switch troops. We "shopped" around until we found a better fit. Maybe their are other troops in your area that you could try. Good luck.