My son just can't get a break at school... I'm really at a loss. I have to vent and if anyone has advice - I'll take it.
He is 10 years old and has ADD, auditory processing disorder and tourettes syndrome. The school he has been at since he was 4 has changed their discipline policy this year and they've gone zero tolerance on behavior. In the two months since school started he's gotten written up five times - once for swinging his arms in line, once for talking, once for going to the wrong bathroom, once for saying "oh man" because his art teacher told him its silent art class time and once for asking a kid in music class where they were in the song book. They keep saying he's disruptive but then tell me these really absurd stories that is just kid stuff. I keep thinking there will be more to the story but no really - he was swinging his arms in line. That's it. They said it was a safety issue.
I spoke with his teacher and the principal and they are like - he has to learn to be the like the rest of the kids. And siggghhhh... he isn't like the rest of the kids. But when I say that, they look at me like I'm this enabling mother in denial. They act like ADD and auditory processing is some made up thing.
The teacher sent me a message that she is worried because she overheard him telling a friend that he hates school and doesn't care if he gets in trouble anymore. He told me he's always in trouble for something and he feels targeted.
I pulled him out of band last week because the music teacher said he can't play the drums. She said he can't play a note... he's been taking private drum lessons, he can play on a high school level but he's so intimidated by the teacher he keeps messing up. I sent her a video of him playing Led Zepplin and her response was - he doesn't fill in his practice sheet.
He is at a private catholic school and after doing research it sounds like private schools in general are awful with managing kids with ADD.
I toured some schools in the area and nothing seems much better. He loves his friends and that is the only reason he gets up in the morning.
I don't know what to do but I'm mad, and sad, and so frustrated for my son. He's such a sweet and creative kid and watching him get kicked around is killing me.
Any ideas, thoughts, can anyone commiserate?