Hi. My daughter is on a 504 plan in which she gets extra time for tests, and a few other accommodations such as sitting in the front of the classroom. She used additional time along with another student to complete her mate final, she is a freshman in HS. Her friend who also needed additional time is not on a 504 plan but specifically requested extra time for math exams as she found she needed it and it helped her, I don’t know details but she got it. After time was up for the class my daughter and her friend remained in the classroom along with another student who was requesting extra time but the teachers assistant , who at this point was the only educator left in the room with the three students, denied her extra time. It is my assumption she did not have this worked out before hand with either a 504 plan, iep, or though the guidance office to have extra time. She found it unfair that my daughter and her friend had extra time and she inquired with the TA why is it the two girls are getting the time it’s didn’t seem fair bc they are not sped. The TA agreed as in yes they are special ed and something like, remember what we discussed in the beginning of the year? Now, I have no idea what they discussed in the beginning of the year but neither my daughter or her friend are in special ed. And if they were why would the TA be involved in discussing this with another student ?? Do I email the teacher ? Do I speak to the Principal why would a TA call non special ed students ‘special ed’ students to another student. I am completely baffled and to make this more difficult this TA helped my daughter diligently through the year as she really did struggle in math. And she ended up doing well on the final thanks to the extra time but her spirit was crushed. I’m at a loss here.....
TA called my daughter SPED !!?! - CHADD's ADHD Pare...
TA called my daughter SPED !!?!
Definitely email the teacher and principal. That’s ridiculous. And it’s not anyone’s business to discuss.
I know it just doesn’t make sense!! Teachers are NEVER to discuss one kids business with another, wether it’s true or not
I have been through many of these experiences with my son who is now 30. I will never forget it and and am so happy to have found this site to share experiences to help. I wish I had this site when my son was in school. I learned the hard way that (1) you have to be a big pain in the ass with the schools to make sure your child gets everything that their certification entitles them to; (2) never be afraid that people won't like you, you are your child's number one advocate; (3) complain in writing to EVERYONE. Phone calls are not legal - it has to be in writing, certified mail, return receipt requested, fax or email. Complain to the Special Education Department or the department that helped you, the Principal, the teacher, the Superintendent of Schools, and make it clear you are not going to just go away. When the district understands that as a mother, you are going to make Dracula look nice, your child will get what he or she needs. I wish you the best of luck with your services. And by the way, stress that your child's privacy was violated to each and every person you contacted and let it be known that you know that is legally actionable and you will go to the State Department of Education and Special Education if it ever happens again.
wonderful advice Wendy, i was reading it saying 'yes'! Me too, btw.
You have my total sympathies and your child deserves so much better than to suffer this disrespect. I have heard other stories where teachers violate the rights of special needs children and gossip and give out a diagnosis and information which is illegal, immoral and just plain evil. I assume that this individual in question is in the profession for the money. I wish you the best of luck in your fight for your child's rights - and make no mistake, it is a "fight." Wendy
P.S. I so wish I had a site like this for emotional support when my husband and I were fighting for our child's rights and doing everything we could to help him.
Go to the teacher and principal. Super inappropriate to discuss other students teacher to peer.
Sorry your child had to experience that
Keep the TA out of it. Definitely email principal. This is probably against the law, and the administration needs to be brought in at this point. And you need to have a written record of making a complaint. Be professional, but firm that this isn’t acceptable treatment of your child.
I completely support your daughter’s feelings. What transpired is unacceptable. I have the Having said this, my son has an IEP/consultative model unrelated to academic achievement. He gets straight As in a gifted program. He does not receive specialized academic instructions or program modifications. He has accommodations similar to your daughter’s. I like to raise awareness that “special education” has many different meanings.
Any luck improving focus for a child with ADHD on a non-stimulant? 
At my wits end.
School Attendance Accommodations? 🙏🙏 ADD - Anxiety - SPD
