Impulsive behavior at school

[Shotsymama]

My son has been doing a lot better in school, but still having issues with self control. He has to be taken aside out of the classroom sometimes when he is being disruptive. Yesterday he pushed a little girl off the step to the drinking fountain. (Him and the little girl are total love/hate and have been for 2 years through pre-school and VPK together) Not that that excused his behavior, but his teacher just said he pushed her... for no reason. (Like he did it just to be mean) There is always a reason...the story I got from him is that they were racing to the water fountain and when they arrived there at the same time he pushed her. Not ok, but obvious lack of impulse control. Last night before bed I asked him about it again, telling him that everyone is special and he doesn't have the right to put his hands on anyone else. He told me he was in timeout forever, and at recess wasn't allowed to play with the other kids... he had to swing by himself the whole time they were outside. So, now I'm like... wth? How long did he have to sit in timeout? Why would they use segregation from the other students as a punishment?Then when I went to pick him up later on I could see one of the teaching assistants giving him a reproachful look. Let him do the time out, make him apologize, then move on! I felt awful for my son, had he been getting that look ever since the incident occurred? Arghhhh.... I know he did something unkind and I agree 100% that he should be disciplined, but discipline and punishment are two different things. Show him and tell him the right thing to do... not putting him away from the other students like a pariah. I'm so nervous for kindergarten, what if it's worse? 😞 I wish I could stop worrying a bit.

[Rulene]

They cannot do that. They cannot separate him or LABEL him. The schools have done that to my grandson also. Say something to them and report them to school board. Make sure you document all these kinds of things. That is so immature of those teachers. Who is the child here? Don’t allow them to do that and tell your son to tell you when they treat him like this. The teachers and principals can and should loose their jobs for this.

[Crunchby]

Ugh... Sounds like its preschool and they can do what they want. They are not trained to deal with adhd kids and the impulsive behavior that comes with it. They see thier role as 'protecting' the other kids from the aggressive kid. My daughter got the boot from 3 preschools, she never hurt anyone but had the 'potential' to. Public school was actually a welcome surprise. They can't kick kids out and have staff to deal with the kids... Not great, but at least someone. See if now 11, super smart, still struggles with making close friends. I wish I had her meds a long time ago. I also wish I had watched dr. Barkleys video. Good luck with your son.

[anirush]

Impulsive behavior has gotten my grandson into so much trouble. He has it written in to his IEP that if he feels he's losing control he can ask to leave the classroom. Doesn't always work but he has that option at least.

He takes a life skills class and is working with a behavioral therapist. We still have lots of going backwards days