Feelings

[MomB10]

I'm a mommy of one 7 yr old boy who was just diagnosed with ADHD. Lately I've been feeling like the villan. In ways such as I'm starting to feel a disconnect from my son in ways where he no longer seems to have a won't for me in a sense. Like he knows I'm his mother, but lately he has not been wanting to come home from his fathers. Lately hes been crying at school that he wants his dad to pick him up and not me which I feel people are looking at me like what in the world is going on over there. I talk to my son to see what the matter is but all he says is that he wants to spend 2 weeks home and then 2 weeks at Dad's. He spends Friday through Monday evening with his father then comes home. I show my son all the love I have and affection, and I don't take it personally either (in a way) I just hope my son doesn't grow away from me to where he tells me he no longer wants to live home.

I just want to say this site has to be one of the best things to me at this moment. I get to express myself and read All of your post reading them like " o me too" and seeing ways I can do better. I want to start a video log of things I experience in life. No blog because my writing and Grammer in horrible LOL, and I find it easier to talk instead of writing, but thank you all for your feedback and sharing your life with me on here.

[Mrscruz1917]

Hello MomB10. I GET THIS! I actually just got home from celebrating my sons 7th Birthday out. We had an amazing day. But towards the end of the day when it’s time to ‘stop the fun’ and get home and ready for school he freaked out. Screaming in the place we were that I was a liar and that he wanted a new family. This is not the first time. And truly it pains me to even write this publicly about my son who generally is such a sweet loving empathetic boy! It breaks my heart because I understand he can’t really help what he is feeling and his perception of things, although only 7 years old, he feels justified and is truly disrespectful. My husband and I are still together and we still get he wants to live with another family. If there is one thing I can offer, and trust me I sometimes take it VERY harshly when he says these things. It hurts me deeply! But I don’t think it’s preferring his father over you. It’s just another OPTION! So he is taking it. And clearly you challenge him to do things and you likely don’t just let him do whatever. Not to imply the father does but they will always choose the path of least resistance. In our sons case, since we are together, he ‘chooses’ another family all together. It breaks my heart as I’m sure it does yours. You’re right. Just knowing we are not alone can and does help. I was just searching the web for ANYTHING any type of support. It’s devestating to go through. Hoping we can continue to help each other through this. And videos would be GREAT! I thought about starting my own. Just wish I believed I had more time. If you start one let me know I’ll def watch and respond! Thank you for being open. This is a very tough thing to face. Hang in there.

[ConcernedMomma511]

Dear mom B10, as a mom, I'm sure you must feel so sad to hear these things comming from your little one, being that you are the one that does so much for him and with him, it must hurt you , I am sure you are doing an amazing job,coping dealing and helping him, I think what happens is that since dad doesn't spend too much time with him , he probably let's him do everything he wants and spoils him and doesn't really want to say no to him ever , because the little time they spend together he wants his boy to be happy, he's not going to want to see him sad , so they tend to Spoil them a lot" that's the reason why he wants to go with daddy, mine does the same thing when he's mad at me because I don't let him do something,,so don't feel bad, I know it's hard , but brush it off know that you are doing all the right things for him and he will know that when he gets a lill older , so don't feel sad or discouraged, so chin up , and know that you haven't done anything wrong, I'm sure you are a great mom 😄