As I’m typing this it’s almost 2:00 am, and I’m laying here reeling from all the issues surrounding my 11 year old son this week. He is ADHD. He has social issues, and emotional regulation is nonexistent!
The last 2- weeks, have been state testing at his school, completely throws him off course every year. Since he is in special ed, he takes his test at different times, and in smaller groups, this means he shifted around, to other rooms, until it’s his turn to test. He’s gotten in trouble, gotten into fights, and I’ve had a phone call from the principal this week informing me all about it.
My ex husband is no help at all. He wants to blame everything on me, and the school, and wants to baby my son, and try to correct anything I do or don’t do. He’s been to 2 Dr’s appointments in 11 yrs. That’s only because the lawyers made him go. He’s against medication, because I’m for it. He’s been living with his girlfriend for almost a year now. So when my son is there and acts up, I think it’s become a problem, my ex refuses to give him his medication on his weekends. So now after all this time, he’s trying to pretend to be involved, and is finally admitting that my son has some
issues, of course he doesn’t agree that it’s ADHD.
Tonight I let my son have his only 2 friends he has over. They had fun ordered pizza, and played Fortnite, played out side as well. After they left my son started relentlessly harassing me for V-bucks, I told him no, over, and over, tried to tell him if he didn’t stop begging, and arguing he was going to get his game system taken away, and he wouldn’t get to play with his friends tomorrow. No reasoning with him at all, when he gets focused in on something he wants. I walk away from him, and warned him again to stop. He then grabbed a glass of coke I had setting on the table, and threw it across the room, started slamming his bed room door over, and over. Lock himself in his room and started thrashing it. This scenario has happened more times then I can count. He is always sorry, afterwards, and becomes very upset with himself. I have to stuff my emotions down, and love him through it, even though I just want to lock my self away and have a good cry.
My counselor works with both me, and my son. She has told me to call the police when he gets out of control like this, I scoffed at the idea at first, and just refused to even entertain it. She explained that it would get his attention, and make him think twice about this sort of behavior next time. She has said it has worked for other parents she has worked with. Tonight I was close to calling, but I texted my ex and told him he needed to call and talk to him, or I was going to have to call the police. He said that was the stupidest idea, ever, and started putting me, and the counselor down. He said I need to try and stay calm, and give my son love and support through this, that he can’t control his emotions, all this why new girlfriend is chiming in. This is the guy. Who called my son the “P” word, has shouted, and broken things in front of him, and several other things I won’t mention, this is why I hired a attorney again, and we have gone through mediation yet again. He is trying to be better, for my son, and I feel is trying to work on his own issues. I’ve never called him for help before, and I’m not sure why I would think it would do any good tonight. I was just at my wits end. The same scenario over, and over, and I just thought maybe I should call the police. My son is a sweet loving boy most of the time. He is my everything, and I have done everything I can to try and help him. I don’t date, I work, come home take care of him, rinse and repeat! I’m just feeling really low right now! I’m know it’s just a feeling that will pass, and tomorrow is a new day, I need to stay up beat and positive for my son, but it’s really hard at the moment. Sorry for going on and on, it’s cathartic to write about this, and try to let it go for awhile.