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Recommendations on Adhd

My 12 year old has ADHD and I was wondering if anyone can recommend books they have liked in helping me to understand him better and get ideas on how to help him with executive functioning skills etc. When his medication wears out he can be very obnoxious and bother us on purpose and his younger sibling, even if you ask him to stop he doesn't and it's very frustrating that sometimes I end up screaming and I later regret it. I've tried going to a different room and walking away from the situation, but at times he does follow And imposes his presence. It's also hard when at bedtime when I'm cuddling with younger sibling and him and I tell them time is up and good night. He just doesn't want to leave and won't go to his bed.


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One book I highly recommend is "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. Even if your child isn't "explosive", it's a great resource. He discusses the fact that "kids do well if they can" and gives strategies for heading off problems before they start. He also does a good job of explaining the lacking skills and difficulties kids with ADHD have so you can understand more why your kids are having the issues they're having.

Joyce Mabe


Russell Barkley taking charge of adhd. He has a 2 hour video on YouTube too


RB is SO knowledgeable, and I learned A LOT from watching his Youtube, but I also found him to be so completely negative. I actually cried after watching. Dr. Edward Hallowell is a great source. He has ADHD and went to Harvard. He is a psychiatrist, and is much more positive, and I think even realistic. RB made me feel like there is no hope for anyone with ADHD. I found him to be very very depressing- so watch with caution.

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Hum, Interesting take. I guess I felt like he was finally 'telling it like it is' more avoiding the elephant in the room. I can see how he is a downer though. I'll def look at Hallowell...I need all the input I can get!


Taking Charge of ADHD by Russell Barkley. He is widely known as the foremost expert on ADHD. He provides information based on well researched science.


I recommend the explosive child and parenting adhd now


“How to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk” by Adele Faber. My son is 4 so I’m reading “How to talk so little kids will listen” which was written by her daughter and it is wonderful. It’s not ADHD specific but a portion of the book does address parenting non-neurotypical children. The tools in it have been helping me start to enjoy spending time with my son more and allow him to feel more independent.


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