Need to find peace of mind

[Akmomof2]

I am a single mom to two great kiddos. My son has adhd and my daughter and I are at wits end....i feel like my life is a messy beautiful puzzle that nobody understands. I really am struggling last few months and need a safe place to talk where ppl get it. I am so tiired of doubting my choices and feeling judged when advocating for my child. I am told i am raising a wimp and cuddling too much....i need to be more strict.....i dont know what to do!!

[Nursern31]

I’m right there with you. I’ve been told the same in the past and honestly I’m still struggling with how to deal with my sons behavior and knowing what’s his adhd and what’s just normal 7 year old behavior. I’ve seeked professional advice but I’ve found it’s best talking with other moms with adhd child.

[ha11 in reply to Nursern31]

same issue😶😒😶😒

[Danny_P]

Ok...First I’m not a mom, I’m a dad and we have two children with ADHD (9yo boy & 7yo girl) and one with ADD (12yo boy). Each of our three have similar symptoms but most symptoms are different.

This isn’t going to be easy but it can be a little less stressful if you try and realize that no one will advocate for your son like you will. You’re his corner woman in this boxing match of a life same as before his diagnosis. So your role hasn’t really changed. You’re simply doubting yourself more now. Possibly feeling like it’s your fault that he has ADHD. DON’T!! Most of your critics will not understand his plight nor will they understand yours. If they did, they would be advocating with you not knocking you down.

From one ADHD/ADD parent to another...I’m proud of you for doing what’s best for your son!

[Akmomof2 in reply to Danny_P]

Thank you.

[ha11 in reply to Danny_P]

😔😔😔😔👍👍👍👍👍

[AnnIrene]

I agree that it helps to have others to talk to about it. Too bad we can't get together over a glass of wine. My son is 13 and has ADHD. I am going through a lot right now because my husband is deployed for 6 months and I'm doing it alone. Things are worse now also because he is going through puberty. He is really testing his boundaries. Don't worry about what others think or say. The school thinks I'm a pain in the butt because I am always getting with them about wanting changes. We are our kids first line of defense. If we don't fight for them know one else will. Keep it up! Give your worries to God. He can handle them!

[Mmagusin]

What we're told is that the developmental age is about 3 years behind, so, you're probably dealing with it appropriately. If you can't ignore those that judge you, ask if they've ever read a science based book on the subject. If they had, they'd see that their 'advice' is akin to suggesting a kid with muscular distrophy try harder at sports. Very cruel and/or ignorant. Stay strong for your kids.

[Cstreet]

Cuddling is so helpful. My baby is 6 feet tall and we are very huggy, and he jokingly picks me up and makes me laugh when I'm yelling and frustrated at him. He liked to roughhouse too much for the other kids so i forced him to try the wrestling tesm for a few days and he loved it for a few years in middle school (dropped it in high school). Now he can control his physicality better, but still only finds success and friendship in his firefighter training program, which is very physical as well as academic.

Classrooms are hard for my son - even natural science, which he loves, is ruined by classroom setting plus chemistry in his high school seems much harder than it was in my day. He used to be a docent at a natural history museum. I should have hired a tutor in 10th grade - many do, i found out too late.

[Akmomof2]

My son is alot like yours!! He does jujitsu and wants to study volcanoes or ewaks if they were real....ramble, ramble!! Haha. I am a chemistry teacher so i pray i can guide in through but have often thought about tutors.