New here... son with adhd

[Kay_nanney]

Hey I’m new here! Our son 6 year old son has adhd.. it has been a roller coaster ride in my life with him. Everyday is different I never know if he’s going to listen that day or not

[MomOfAMermaid]

Hi and welcome! Hugs for you and I am happy that you have chosen to be part of a place that is designed to give you the support you deserve. I am the mom of a 6 year old mermaid :-} and she has ADHD (diagnosed at age 5) and sensory (diagnosed at age 4). Woooah you talk about everyone accusing me of being too lax of a mom and not "making her listen"! I learned my first step was realizing that these folks were wrong - her special abilities are not the results of my poor parenting - but the reality is that I had to realize that I was wrong too . . . the reason everyone's criticism hurts so badly is because deep down inside I believed it was my fault too . . . . be assertive on here in asking for the support you want or need . . . I wish you all the best!

[Kay_nanney in reply to MomOfAMermaid]

Thank you so much! How did you have to change?

[MomOfAMermaid in reply to Kay_nanney]

When I was ready, I changed my perspective to realize that I nor my choices are the cause of how ADHD and sensory impact her. As a matter of fact, when I believe I am the cause of these conditions, I limit my ability to be of help to her because I only work to change me and not provide the supports she deserves. For me, the real cause is genetics - and our creator creates perfection - so there are reasons we have these experiences. If she needed a wheel chair or a kidney, I would not blame myself, so why would I blame myself with ADHD or sensory? HUGS!