What help can I get with education

"like a hamster on a wheel ",that's spot on.Also the teachers go home from their "work " day to normal life, whereas we are parents,carers and supporting roles to our children 24/7.

Something stood out to me in your words: "which made him build a wall around himself." Is there someone in the school that he can learn to trust and build a relationship with? Someone who can create a little door in that wall he has put up in order to reach him?

The principal at my daughter's school has several students she visits with every morning that are similar to your son. She goes to each classroom and just has a little 2 minute visit with each kid individually to talk about how great their day will be. He doesn't even have to know why she's visiting with him, unless maybe he's older and you think it would be an advantage for him to know, since it will be public knowledge that she visits with several students. This relationship with someone in the school other than his teacher that can extend through his school years at that school will help open him up for success in the classroom. This would be a great time to give him some tips and strategies for dealing with anxiety and fear when it arises in the classroom...maybe teach him a new strategy each week without him even knowing it.

It doesn't have to be the principal. It could be the assistant principal, guidance counselor, librarian,...whoever he might already have a slight connection with that they can build up into a trusting relationship. There's no guarantee it will work with every child, but it's worth mentioning to his teacher. Good luck!

My son had so much anxiety about starting first grade saying "school's boring; people are mean." It hurt my heart so much and then I feel guilty rushing him in the morning trying to get to work when he's just not feeling good and looking forward to the day! Worse is the charter school he attended for Kindergarten withdrew him and now we're without a school. I'm at a loss no one seems to be concerned with all our kids with ADHD!