Overwhelmed w/ loneliness

[TacoCat25]

I’m going back to school tomorrow and was about to go to bed, but I suddenly got this overwhelming loneliness. It just hit me.

I don’t have any friends at school. Any friends at church. I’ve never had a relationship. I can’t even make friends online. I just feel horrible about myself, I always loose the friends I make.

I have horrible social anxiety that makes me not want to talk to people. I rarely talk to my family because I’m always locking myself in my room.

I don’t know what to do and all these thoughts won’t let me get to sleep.

Any advice? Thanks!

[froggymom88]

Sending you a big hug! First know that you are a wonderful creation of God who loves you. Relationships are always difficult and take time to develop and nurture. It is an ongoing process. Maybe start with developing a good relationship with a family fist. Choose the person you would feel most comfortable with and share some of your feelings with them. I would also suggest some therapy to give you guidance in achieving continued progress.

[TacoCat25 in reply to froggymom88]

Thank you so much for your kind words and advice. I am trying a couple of those things. But starting a good relationship with my family is definitely something I need to start doing. Thank you again! 🖤

[Hidden in reply to TacoCat25]

How are you doing, TacoCat? Just checking in, as I saw your post and I know sometimes loneliness comes and goes... 🌮🐱

[TacoCat25 in reply to Hidden]

Yes, I’m feeling a bit better. I told my counselor and he has said we will talk about it. Thank you for the advice about trying to spend more time with my family, I’m taking that to heart. 🖤 All is well right now, thank you!

[pam4him]

So sorry you're struggling with this. Are you being treated for depression or anxiety? It could be helpful. To make friends, we first have to be friendly. But that is hard to do when you feel lonely and have anxiety. Try small steps, like not locking yourself in your room. Hang out in the living room for 15 mins and try to engage in what's going on, even if just a comment or two. Then try again for 30 mins, building up to maybe a couple of hours. From there move on two a social occasion using the same build up. Hang out where the other students do for 15 mins, etc. By slowly acclimating, you may find you do have things in common with family and friends. Prayers for peace, wisdom, guidance, and finding some friendships.

[TacoCat25 in reply to pam4him]

Thank you for your suggestion! I’ll give them a try 🖤

[littlemermaid08]

Hi TacoCat25, I know this was a post from 4 months ago but I just wanted to comment on here. How are you doing?

I do not know you personally but I am so sure that you are a wonderful human being. We each have something so unique and amazing within us it is just a matter of discovering it and loving ourselves how God made us. Don't punish yourself for being different or not being the most talkative person. The right friends will come and they will love you as you are. Something that helps me when I feel anxious is to take a deep breath and think about the qualities that I have and I tell myself that I am wonderfully and fearfully made. You are too! you can count with me on here.