I feel like I don’t need anything

[Mrbored]

This is my first write so please bear with me

So recently I had just told the girl of my dreams that I was basically in love with her and that I wanted to spend all my time with her. She said I deserved a chance with her and long story short it didn’t work out. But when she was telling me that we should just stay friends I didn’t feel anything. Before this I had almost cried every time thinking about losing her but her telling me she didn’t want to go out with me anymore I didn’t feel anything. I don’t understand why because before this I had wanted a girlfriend really badly or something to truly invest my time into because I just wanted to love something.

Everyday is the same routine I get up, go to school, come home, go to bed and repeat. Every night I don’t feel like doing anything or eating anything. I’ll come home and I normally would wanna play video games or watch some shows on TV but lately I don’t wanna do anything. I have no motivation to do anything or feel anything. I am bored with my life and I feel that there is nothing to stimulate me. Girls don’t interest me now, nothing is fun to do, no food is good it’s just food, and nothing is fun anymore. I am completely bored with my life but I don’t think I’m depressed. I don’t know what to do, I normally know what I want or what I wanna do but right now nothing has peaked my interests. I have all this stuff but no motivation to do anything. Why do I feel like this and how can I make it stop?

[hypercat54]

Hi well it sounds to me like you are more in love with the idea of being in love and I think your gf could have realised this which is maybe why she called off the relationship. Could it be too that you wanted to spend every minute with her and was too clingy?

You can't rely on others to make you happy in life but only yourself. Life can seem very boring at times but carry on and it will change again and become more exciting. This is your first love and it's very painful when it comes to an end, but you will meet other girls in life. You will always remember your first one though. x

[terriltwin2]

I am sorry you are going through this. I think that sometimes our bodies just go on emotional pause, so that our brain can catch up with the change that we go through. Do you have a church that you attend? A singles group that you might want to get involved with? Church groups are the best for me, true and real people are there and they support you no matter what and they know what you are going through. Do you have a positive support system with friends? Friends that would want to go do something with you? I know you said you don't feel like it, however, sometimes I have to really push myself. Take your time during this life time. Don't hurry and love will seek you out, it will find you and it will be the best ever! Sounds like you have a wonderful huge heart and a beautiful heart, don't ever give up on love. Love endures all things. Love hopes all things and Love heals all things.

[SirGrits]

I'm no therapist, but your symptoms sound like depression to me; perhaps a stage of depression. I encourage you to read up on it. Hang in there.

I agree with looking for a church small group. You'll likely find people who've been where you are now, which is a great comfort. In lieu of that, maybe find a school group of people with similar interests; but such a group would be a little less helpful as it will be focused on the interest rather than doing life. Prayers bro.