Hi... I’m just looking for some help or some type of clarity.

[Volleyballgirl123]

Well I’m not really sure what to write or if anyone will really care but I just don’t know what’s wrong with me... if you look into my life you would think everything is perfect, great family very supportive and friendly , great house , great financially. Yet I feel sad almost all the time and I worry I’m being brat like or selfish or stupid because I have so much to be thankful for but for some reason I’m constanly sad even dramatic or problematic and I have this sense of not belonging or feeling helplessly alone. Sometimes I feel like I have this rage inside of me that I don’t know how to handle and it truly scares me and most of the time I feel over whelmed with sadness. I just feel like a hot mess. Honestly I feel like if you take a closer look into my family you will see that we are all broken. Every single one of us are facing our own battles, I just wish I didn’t have to face mine alone. I really don’t know what to do and if anyone is reading this please let me know your opionion

[Hidden]

Since you and your family are facing your own battles it may be best to help out each other in some way. Many times it takes more then one person to take care of another. Relying on yourself to find a conclusion to your problems is many times not the best of way. Especially when you don’t have the recourses or understanding on where things actually stand.

You are no doubt not alone in this. Many others are going through the same thing. Even if they have everything they need to live a daily life.

Try not to overwhelm yourself in all these negative thoughts you are having. Rather find a conclusion to them and don’t look at yourself in any negative way. Fill yourself with positivity. May not be easy but is surely possible. Be opened to these possibilities and try not to close yourself off. This is a popular aftermath with such anxiety.

Hang in there as you are. You are strong within. Have confidence and know you will find your way through all this. 😊

[Volleyballgirl123 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you so much. Your words really mean a lot to me! 🙂

[Hidden in reply to Volleyballgirl123]

You are very welcome. 😊

[Natsteveo in reply to Hidden]

Very nicely put and spot on advice there

Nat

[AussieMale]

Hi Volleyballgirl,

I read your post with interest as I can relate to much of what you say.

Like you I have all the material things I want and need. I also have a supportive family and some good friends.

Yet I get sad sometimes and every now and then, more out of frustration than anything, I get into a fit of rage.

Please don't despair.

As I get older I realize just how many wonderful people there are in this world.

This is encouraging, gives me hope and allows me to see that all is not as bleak as it would seem.

As to what you say about your family members facing their own battles you might wish to consider this quote from the great writer Mark Twain...

"There was never yet an uninteresting life. Such a thing is an impossibility. Inside of the dullest exterior there is a drama, a comedy, and a tragedy.”

Be kind to yourself.

I've no doubt there are people in your life who love and care for you a great deal.

I hope my words are of some help.

Good luck.

[Volleyballgirl123 in reply to AussieMale]

Thank you so much for the advice it rlly is helping and and I rlly rlly appreciate it 😊

[momonthego2019]

I can also relate to your feelings and the negative thoughts you have. Funny thing about our thoughts, they often are not true representations of ourselves. Family therapy may be a great way option for your family. If you don't think your family will be up to you, than individual counseling may benefit you. Don't beat yourself up about how you are feelings. Sometimes you have to be very intentional about being positive. It all begins when you wake up in the morning. When you wake up in the morning, try stretching, yoga, meditation, and repeating positive affirmations (that you create) to yourself. Play uplifting music, and throughout your day, just keep telling yourself something positive. If you have to put post it notes in your car, at your job, on your refrigerator, do it. Before you go to bed at night, think about all the things you are thankful for and all the good things you did that day. If you don't think you did anything good, then confess it out loud and forgive yourself and aim to do better tomorrow. You are retraining your mind to think more positively. It will take time but if you keep at it, you will be your own best encourager!

[Humanintraining]

Personal unpopular opinion: It's natural to feel this way.

You can't be happy all the time, even if you have everything you'd ever want. Your brain goes numb to what you already have. It has acclimated. It's not a sad thing, but it can be hard to accept. Love isn't as strong, gratitude wanes, you're dropping into a mentally neutral to negative state of emotions.

Because you can't feel driven all the time, especially if you already have everything you'd want. Hope is a driving factor to get what you want. Already having what you want, produces in the worst case, fear of losing it.

Consider all the celebrities, with more cash and means than we'll ever have, that ended their own life. Consider the fact that humanity was bothered enough to go to the moon, go to Mars, exploring the Americas.

We're not meant to be content. We're wired not to be.

Facebook, instagram, advertising, it's all trying to make you think you should be happier than you are, because you should consume! Produce kids that will consume! You should live! Really "live"! Many people wreck the life they have in the process, trying to find that "spark" again.

Don't chase the spark. Don't chase "more" or feel bad about not finding "that thing that makes you feel alive". Accept your state of mind. Go from anger, to sadness.

If you achieve that, you came a long way.

Screw "be positive", "change", "don't give up"

Just accept, and enjoy the other days.