low self confidence ...

[charles95]

this is really isnt anything to do with health...im just feeling a bit down about it .... its just has knocked my confidence down, basically every guy i ever like has never liked me back and no one has ever 'liked' me liked that i am nearlly 20 and have never been in a relationship, i dont know if it is just me just the last guy i liked, i told him then he posted it all over twitter and then said that i was ugly... it kinda hurt me :/ then the recent guy i like , doesnt ever like me i walways seem to get 'friend zoned' or just ignored.. i dont know what do you think, i dont care that im not in a relationship as i knowthat guy will come its just kinda lowered my confidence as i feel like im not good enough D:

[Hidden]

Dear Charles95, Hey we've all been there before, I'm 19 and I never thought I would ever get a boyfriend. I used to be the one confessing all the time too, and after a when I finally decide to give up on guys the right guy came along and asked me out. The guy that posted about you on twitter is a jerk and you deserve someone who actually cares about you. Your time will definitely come along before you know it. Right now you have to focus on giving yourself confidence. Improve your beautiful personality. Look at yourself in the mirror and think to yourself, what do you want to achieve in life? Besides getting a boyfriend, focus on your goals, and every once in a while be nice to people, smile at strangers, hang out with your friends. Trust me the good guys prefer girls with a better mature personality than a fake dumb bitch who only cares about people's looks. They also find hardworking women with an ambition very attractive.

Good luck and wish you all the best! Xxx

[charles95 in reply to Hidden]

thankyou x

[loggerslot]

Hi there, You are 20 yrs old and still very young. you have a very long future ahead of you and what positive actions you take now will only make your future brighter. think about your career, job, maybe hobbies, interests you wish to take on.

Boyfriend is good but he's not going to study for you at uni or do your full time job for you. Hobbies and interests are good, they make you an all rounded more interesting person to engage with and who cares what others think of your hobbies, if the hobbies interest you then don't pay attention to other people's negative social comments or don't feel your hobbies have to be socially acceptable to your group of people or friends. maybe through doing a hobbies you will meet someone who shares your interest. then you can engage in a friendship, build your trust and loyalty in your long term friendship and if all is well then maybe a relationship.

When you stand on your own 2 feet and show a positive aurora about yourself then the right person will come who is interested in you. concentrate on making that foundation stronger on which you stand and don't worry about BF's. think of it like this. your house that you live in sits on a strong foundation. 40 yrs on, it is sill standing strong and able to support those inside with their daily lives. if that foundation of the house is not strong and you rush to build it and occupy the house then cracks appear in the walls and soon the house won't be good to live in or fit for purpose. a person can be viewed in a similarway , if you push yourself to be in a situation that you may not be ready for then you will do harm to yourself, if you let the jigsaw puzzle fall in the right places itself over time then you are giving time to strengthen your foundation so that whoever enters your life will find a trustworthy and strong person for life. hope I've not confused you :s.

Don't forget there are very selfish people out there who only know how to have fun at the expense of others so friendship is the only to judge if someone is genuine or just messing you about.

all the best

[charles95 in reply to loggerslot]

thankyou this helped x

[Andwins]

Hi, some guys and girls can be real idiots. I mean posting stuff about you on social media, just so they can boost their own self esteem by hurting yours is a pretty low thing to do, but it's a thing that most of us have been guilty of at one time or another. At the end of the day it's them who have the problem not you. Like the previous reply says, concentrate on you and what you want to do, someone will come along when you least expect it. Focus on what you want to achieve in this life, be honest with yourself and others, be content in being you.........the rest is just icing

[charles95 in reply to Andwins]

thankyou

[drea84]

well said Andwins - don't worry about these idiots honey, remember men tend to have a younger mindset than us (sorry guys but its true) and you are young with loads going for you so enjoy it! I got tied down when I was 19 and freed myself (eventually with difficulty at 24) and ive not looked back, I had a great time then I met my man at 28 and im happy in my relationship. i went through hell with my ex but came out it the better and you can too babe x

[charles95 in reply to drea84]

thankyou x

[charles95]

thankyou guys i feel better now xx