I’ve always been a size 8, but since the birth of my son I’ve gone to size 22. I feel disgusted, even remove mirrors in the house. I lack confidence and become an introvert. I often cry when I see people who make me feel worthless cuz of my size. I do need to lose weight but also need the help and support from people who have had similar experience with weight struggles.
So I’m asking what can I do to lose weight?
I do know but any tips and advice that will help me motivate myself, it’s a scary journey. I don’t want to overwhelm myself you see.
You haven't said how old your son is, but it takes a while before our bodies recover and if your son is still a baby, or nursing, then you should concentrate more on healthy eating, than weight loss. That's also true if your son is older, as it will be important for you to be a good role model.
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You really sound like me I did . I piled on weight over the years and old photos of me dancing , posing after gym comps ...I was 46 kg then . I had my wake up call when at 80kg and only 5ft 1 - I had no confidence . I hated my job , my life etc. I had 5 wonderful healthy boys . I was proud , protective but I hurt inside . I wanted nice clothes , a new job and a new ME .
Only I could do this so ....firstly set a date to start . Plan your meals ...that means smaller portions too . Remember this isn't a diet as this has to be realistic for all day , everyday with a few treats then back on track . I did via calories and the MFP app for guidance , support and to actually remember what I ate and what I could put together .
I would eat plenty of decent protein ..keep yourself full . Omelettes , cottage cheese , lean grilled chicken / pork .
Try and get some time out . A group exercise class even once a week to escape .
Don't expect overnight results but 1-2lbs a week in terms of bags of sugar .
It didn't do me any harm to have a good cry , get angry , feel annoyed . This can motivate you.
Unsure how old your child is but my advise is get out of the house . Walk to the library . Get books for both of you , maybe storytime ? Mums /Tots groups ...we aren't all yummy Mummys posing in mags with the latest 1k prams !
The upshot of this is for me ...new job , different clothes , confidence to get my hair restyled inside of my usual ' pair of curtains ' style . Not dreading any warm weather and just feeling I can walk down the street with ease .
Well done for being so honest . Your story hit me as so many feel like this but can't / don't want to face it .
Support is here .Make that start whilst you feel like this .
Hello I went from a size 10 to a size 18 having my son. My hubby worked night's at the time I felt very alone. I hid, comfort ate and cried. I suddenly realised I had a healthy happy smiling reason to get up and change right in front of me. I walked miles with him in the pushchair. I plugged my MP3 in held my head up high ignoring the looks and walked. Every day I made myself get out, I joined mother and toddler groups and found women just like me. All struggling to loose weight. Some did it easy, some found it hard. It took time but I went down to a 12. I was happy with that, pregnancy changed my body I didn't like it, but that little boy and his beautiful smile gave me all the encouragement I needed. Don't be hard on yourself, weight loss isn't easy it doesn't happen as quick as we would like it too. By admitting you need to loose is a positive step and the beginning of your journey. There is lots of advice here and people ready to encourage you. Good luck x
Hello Hidden,
I can totally relate to what you’re writing. Just from my experience, the very first time I tried to lose weight my daughter was 3 months old (she’s my 3rd child)and it was way too soon I think because I felt so tired and I think my diet wasn’t sustainable...
Nowadays, my daughter is almost 6 years old and I thought I would give it another try... I started in September. I wanted something sustainable and I really liked the idea of not going on a diet but just changing my mindset about food and everything (like loving myself even if I’m a bit overweight)...
I bought a kitchen scale and now try to do some portion control. I try to cook everything at home and I buy lots of fresh vegetables / food.
I exercise too.
Everything I do is not perfect... I probably eat too much bread, but I’m trying every day. In the end, I think that’s what counts.
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