How long do you keep trying to conceive before you give up?

[baily84]

Neither my husband or I have any medical conditions that we are aware of or have been diagnosed.

[RJ3537]

Hi, all the more reality lose weight and get healthy, you are very lucky.

[baily84 in reply to RJ3537]

how are we lucky we have been trying for the last 7 years

[Aussieblues]

Let's face it most people until they have stroke/ heart attack never knew either! But if you eat healthily and exercise you are more likely to stay heathy and hopefully have a long life

[RJ3537]

Hi sorry I misunderstood your quote. Only you know when you give up. You have got your health and no health matters, enjoy life.

[Hidden]

Hi bailey84. Personally speaking, I wouldn't give up trying. You stated that neither of you have any medical conditions that you are aware of or have been diagnosed with....may I suggest that you both go and have tests done to see if there are any underlying problems. xx

[baily84 in reply to Hidden]

We have and nothing has come up

[Hidden in reply to baily84]

That is good news in the sense that you are both well and healthy. In regards to not conceiving yet, I would maybe try not to try so hard to get pregnant. Our bodies know when we are tense and anxious and this may be a factor in why you haven't conceived yet. I do understand a bit of how you are feeling, as I haven't been able to conceive (I am now 41) and it is breaking my heart knowing that because of the condition I have that I won't be able to have "my own" children. Please don't give up, but try not to make it the main focus of your life either. I'm sorry if any of this sounds harsh, I don't mean it too. xx

[baily84 in reply to Hidden]

It doesn't sound harsh at all. I am sorry to hear your pain

[bluebell10]

hi bailey i dont think you should give up at all but maybe try to relax & not see it as trying for a baby then it will probably happen,you need to be relaxed in your mind too & not be stressed,i know....easier said than done.xx

[baily84 in reply to bluebell10]

Thanks but like you said easier said than done

[bluebell10 in reply to baily84]

i wish u luck & hope x

[Divided]

I don't think I would give up. I was sure we were going to have problems so we started early. I was 19 when I came off the pill but I was 23 before we had our first child. I needed that time as I probably wasn't ready at 19, but something told me it wasn't happening anyway. As it turned out, we were both ill and had a stint in hospital each. (I had to come off my pain meds to drive to visit him!) But we had taken the view that if it didn't happen we would save up for treatment and that was the plan we were working on when we fell pregnant 1 month after my operation. We don't know which of us had the problem but I happen to think it rectified itself so fast because we had forgotten we were still trying. If we'd really thought about it we probably wouldn't have tried to conceive at one month post-operative. It did ensure my doctors were super-attentive, though!

Life happens while you are planning other things and that is never more true than in the wait for children. Don't give up, but remove the focus. Don't let it consume your time. If at the end of your life you gave up or wasted days in a vain struggle, you'll resent it. Keep planning your life with your husband, the things you want for yourselves besides children, and keep looking forward, not back. After all, there really is no such thing as family planning. If it happens a baby will crash into your life either head or arse first, regardless of any amount of planning, and basically dismantle it. You can't prepare for that, no matter how many years you have. So don't think on it. Keep yourselves healthy and live.

[baily84 in reply to Divided]

Thanks that is amazing