After some advise, both my parents but themselves forward to be tested to see if they could be a donor. Unfortunately my dad was found to only have 56% renal function and was a match but couldn't help. My mum went forward to do the paired exchange as she was not a match and now after 4 months of testing they have said she can't do it either as one of her kidneys has scarring and isn't working at the normal rate. As you can imagine she is devastated, im ok about it as never thought it would happen.
It seems strange that there is lots of talk about counsellors about giving your kidney but nothing if you can't help after having all these tests.
I just want to help my mum as she feels she's let me down and keeps saying sorry and crying. I've told her she did a massive thing being tested and under going months of tests for me.
Not sure if anyone else has been through the same and can offer any help that I can offer her. All she sees is her 30year old daughter getting worse and she let me down, which will all know is silly.