1st Miscarriage hey mamas? Dads too!

[Lilguts14]

Sorta off topic but not really...since colitis is considered an autoimmune condition can it effect fertility? I already had a successful pregnancy 🤰🏻 before my diagnosis and symptoms I was at a healthy weight. I went through a miscarriage this summer and when I fell pregnant my BMI was low 17...I’m supposed to be at 20 to be considered healthy. I wasn’t even 100lbs I noticed this condition has prevented my body from absorbing fat and storing it through out my body...nothing I do works I end up gaining a few pounds and my guts can’t tolerate it and end up flaring and Ive been on a Whole Foods diet for a year now. It’s hard to gain weight when the foods that used to give me weight I can’t tolerate. I’m just saddened by that I may never have anymore kids...because of my health..

[Hidden]

Hello Lilguts14

I am sorry to hear how you are suffering and I can understand how you may feel disappointed that this may have affected your chances of having more children but sometimes in life these things happen and as difficult as it maybe we have to look at what we have got rather than stay angry and sad at what our illness may have prevented us having and you have one healthy child which is something some women are never lucky enough to be blessed with

Focus on the child you have and you never know what the future may bring you may even one day think about adoption as there are plenty of children that need a good home from someone like you with so much love to give

Stay as healthy as you can and I wish you all the best for the future

Take Care x

[Lilguts14 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you for your advice may peace be upon you 💕

[Hidden]

I feel for you and can feel your sadness. I would turn this around to a more empowering state: "I'm staying as well as I can and I'm going to have the second child I want".

This isn't just wishful thinking. I had chronic IBS, had my first child, a miscarriage, then a second miscarriage, then a second healthy child. I think miscarriages are more common than we think, but no-one talks about them.

Hope this gives you courage - and that you get what you want.

Alison

[Lilguts14 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you May peace be upon you ❤️