Fiancé daughter has picture of dad and her hanging on wall

[TheBooG]

Is it disrespectful for my fiancé daughter to have the picture of her father and mother in the day of their wedding hanging in the house I pay mortgage in? I do believe she is being disrespectful intentionally.

[c-mac]

Yeah, that's tough. On the one hand, I'd feel like she was digging at me. But on the other hand, she's *always* going to feel like those two were something special, since they made her! I don't know, but it might actually be good for her to remember her dad that way (again, I don't know, but maybe.)

My daughter throws in my face the idea that she loves my wife more, but I can concentrate on how *I* feel about *my daughter* -- which is, I love her and want her to be happy. If being around my wife makes her more happy, then by all means, let's do that. It was nice when I could tell her that's what I thought, too.

[Hidden]

How old is the daughter?. Do you expect her mot to care about her past? You all have a past you know. Sometimes part of the baggage leaks into present day. Everyone isnt strong nor do we handle things the same way as others.

She cherishes that photo for a reason. A memory of something good in her life. Form your own memories with her..make them good and the possibility of that photo may be replaced. But you cannot control everything in your environment and you're not supposed to.

Does it matter that you're paying for the house?..you are there as a provider..so provide what you can and make it good. Dictating what to do or cant do with what you are able to provide may cause tension. That's not what you want. Is she tearing up the house?..no..so your investment is in tact..focus on what matters. Change is not always easy.