It's been four months plus and I'm still wait... - Quit Support
It's been four months plus and I'm still waiting to feel better. I know my circulation and respiration are better but still feel kind of sad
Hey Daicha, welcome to Quit Support 
You'll find that there are others who feel and felt the same way as you so please don't think that you are alone i this
When stopping smoking, many people feel a sense of mourning, like they have lost something / someone close to them. Quite often, we are constantly reminded how bad smoking is for us and what it is doing to our health. However, when we stop smoking, there is something that stirs inside us that reminds us of all the happier times (or so we believe!) of being a smoker 
You will come through this, just stick with us and ride it through
What were your main reasons for wanting to stop smoking in the first place?
I'll pop you a well deserved Winner's Badge up next to your name, because that is what you are - A true winner 
Hi Diacha, good to hear from you, it's quite right as Em Jay said it's like losing a friend, and yes feeling so lost and sad, but it does get better with time. I decided to quit my so called friend after 45 years, it wount be coming back into my life again, just come on this site, real friends on hear will help you,
Thanks sunny and MJ. I decided I was too old to smoke in my 60th year and it held me hostage - I was always hanging out for a smoke. I know my lungs and legs work better now when I climb the hills 'round here but seem to have lost my song. Almost a personality bypass. To say nothing of the EIGHT kilos I've gained since 12 midnight on the 30th of January 2014. I had been obese and lost 22 kg in 2013 and thought I should be able to apply the same discipline to quitting the smokes. Did it the "Easy Way" and it's not hard physically after a few days it's just the loss of the punctuation throughout the day.
As sunny and MJ said, you aren't alone there. I quit after smoking for 18 out of my 30 years and like you I'm noticing my lungs working better (can run up the steps at work and not get winded anymore) but have yet to "feel" better. Did some digging around the internet and it seems that it could be many months to years before your mind breaks free. Mind you, I'm not trying to discourage you whatsoever. I got an app on my phone that tells me how much money I've saved, cigarettes avoided and days I've been smoke free and looking at it reassures me whenever I feel like I could use a pat on the back. I've learned to appreciate the little things that I missed (and the tastes, I thought pizza was amazing before!).
Hi Diacha
You are doing brilliant, but i know what you mean about losing your song, but you havent really, its just you have mistaken smoking as part of your personality, fags are clever at tricking us into all sorts of things. Also i was waiting for some sort of fanfare to occur and to feel amazing, but you know what, that will never come, and when you accept it like Allen Carr says in his easyway book, then it makes it easier. People who have never smoked dont feel elated all the time, so it is mad that we think we should, but what is amazing is the health benefits, its the best gift we can give ourselves. It would be brilliant if giving up smoking was like losing weight, so every week you see an improvement, and then start feeling more confident and people start noticing etc, but when we quit.... no one even notices...unless we are biting their heads off lol!!
Not one person in my office has noticed i have stopped, and i was the only smoker lol x
Yeah Pinkiezoom. I wasn't sure we could name "brands" like Alan Carr. That's what finally clicked for me. After many failed attempts over about 20 years this method had me keen to start my status as a non smoker. I read the book. It was an asked for gift for Christmas 2013 and I didn't read it for another year. Before I'd finished I was keen to start. I'm not going back but I do feel cheated or as though I'm missing something. And as for the sense of smell returning - a lot of things absolutely STINK.
Oh dont hun, the sense of smell thing....i know where you are coming from..... i thought one of my cats had peed on the carpet.... turns out it was my mango yoghurt lol!! who knew huh. I still have that feeling that i am missing out, really hit me when i was on holiday, felt cheated for some reason, but when i looked around and saw non smokers having a great experience i realised i was probably just a bit mental lol!!
I read easyway, but was always going on the Ecig, i have tried and failed befored, but this time with a mixture of his words and the fact i am not totally nicotine free i seem to be making better progress :)I just think the part where he talks about being enslaved to cigarettes really helps me stay focused, but i wish now i had taken his advice and not used any form of nic replacement and just gone cold turkey, as i am struggling to get myself of my ecig. But not stressing about that for now. One thing at a time lol x
I had some ecigs but threw them out. Too chicken. The nicotine is all gone after a few days and the craving is less for the drug than the engagement with the cigarette. It has to be a huge adjustment from a behaviour I'd engaged in all my adult life. After this length of time I know a fag would make me feel ill. Unfortunately I also know from experience that the next one is not so bad. Mustn't start.
Depression is something that we all face.. Replacing this feeling of loss with healthier time consuming activities is helping me get on with my life.. I'm finding that smoking was a filler for me in idle times through out the day.. Not being idle by cleaning or exercise give u a boost in self worth and accomplishment.. Seeing an improvement in ur health/atmosphere/ physical appearance replacing that feeling of satisfaction we got from feeding the addiction...
Hi Daicha, lovely to meet you
Please try to stay strong and focused on your quit, cos you have done so so well to get to 4 months quit and you will only kick yourself if you have even 1 fag eh soooooo please dont even think about it eh
Am sending you some keeeeeeep strong huggs to help you get through Pete
Thankyou darlings! I'm not going to give in to smoking. I just got a bad case of the "poor me" rubbish thoughts. Wish I could find a substitute for those little moments. Should put aside each weeks savings and buy myself an exercise bike. It's funny coincidence but the patio outside my work where the smokers gathered has just been made no-smoking. The poor beggars now have go right out to the car park! I miss sitting out on the patio but I'm glad not to have to slink off to the car park. Must remember how good it is not to be hostage to the need.
It sounds as though you are now appreciating your new found freedom then, no longer a hostage
Well done to you
