My mum has been in hospital over a week now with urinary retention while they decide whether she needs a catheter or not. We found out today that she has aspiration pneumonia again.
I feel so upset as I feel quite responsible for it. She was told she must have thickened liquids and puréed food and she absolutely hates both so she was not drinking enough and getting so thirsty and losing weight. She asked for coke and other types of food not puréed - she was just pushing hospital food away and calling it mush.
So I brought other things to the hospital for her and helped her eat and drink. at the time it felt like the right decision as I just wanted to see her happy and comfortable and I honestly thought that she wouldn't get ill again so soon.
Seems we've learnt a lesson the hard way. I still wonder - do we respect her wishes for liquid or just tell her no and give her the thickener which makes her dry heave and get dehydrated? Up to now food has been her only pleasure (I think)
Maybe she will change her mind after this as she will realise that having constant pneumonia is no life either.
It just seems she is declining so quickly and she just seem so vulnerable now.