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I’m sitting here in disbelief this morning ; this day 12 without nutrition or hydration. She is hanging on and my heart is just broken. She is in no pain, resting comfortably… I just never imagined 12 days like this.

Prayers please

Xo Kim

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JA10 profile image

Kim, I feel for you, this is where I was just over two years ago, it is such a surreal time.Praying for you both 🙏.

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Yvonneandgeorge in reply to JA10

you are in our thoughts and prayers Kim xxx

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With tears in my eyes. I realize there is no words from us that will help. So Im 🧎‍♂️.


NannaB profile image

Oh Kim, you are all in my thoughts and prayers. Have you told your mom it is OK for her to go and you’ll be OK. I did on the morning of the 10th day, told him I loved him, thanked him for being a wonderful husband for 44 years and said we will meet again one day. He left me that evening.

I pray your mom remains peaceful until she passes on to a better place. With love and a big virtual hug. XxxX

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bazooka111 in reply to NannaB

thank you for your words. I have told her … it’s so hard to watch this —- I feel the hug - thank you NannaB 🥰

daddyt profile image

Prayers for Momma, you and your family.

Tim X

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bazooka111 in reply to daddyt

thank you Tim xo

fishponds profile image

hugs prayers and stength Kim X this was where I was a year ago With my hubby It’s so hard You will get through Lots of love xxx

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bazooka111 in reply to fishponds

doing the best I can

Helen119 profile image

I so feel for you, this part was the hardest, love and many hugs to you both, be strong xxxx

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bazooka111 in reply to Helen119

thank you Helen — 😞

wear1947 profile image

Kim, you and your momma are in my thoughts and prayers Elena

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bazooka111 in reply to wear1947

thank you friend 💕

Mariawatters profile image

I sat with my mum 11 weeks ago . I told her what a fabulous mother she was . I recalled all the great Christmas’s , birthdays etc she gave me and of course how much I loved her . It’s the hardest thing to have to go through and Im sending all my prayers and love to you and your mum 💔

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bazooka111 in reply to Mariawatters

thank you so much —- so very hard

Cinderella80 profile image

My heart goes out to you and your beautiful momma. My mum is also getting weaker day by day so hard to see. So heartbreaking. Lots of prayers hugs and love coming your way. 🌹

honjen43 profile image

Kim, have been thinking of you both and wondering how you are. Prayers and hugs to you both. Am pleased to hear Momma is peaceful and not in pain.

Your being by her side will be a great comfort for her.

I am checking in daily to keep in touch and to give you a virtual hug. I know you need it!

Big hugs ((XX))

Jen xxx

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bazooka111 in reply to honjen43

hello Jen — sitting bedside —- heartbreaking — day 12 w/out —- mottling has started tonight — my heart is broken

Hugs to my friend


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honjen43 in reply to bazooka111

Big hugs and prayers back. Hugs


LostinHeadSpace profile image

Thinking of you as you watch and wait!

AnneandChris profile image

Oh Kim

I'm so sorry to read this. Thoughts and prayers are with you both.

I was there three years ago, this Christmas, so know how you feel.

Sending love and hugs from afar xx

Soul-girl profile image

god bless you , it’s so so hard , I feel this will be my mother soon too, she’s sooo tired now, please take care, sending much love and hugs xxx

Tippyleaf profile image

I cannot begin to imagine how hard this must be for you all. Sending a big hug and lots of love

Tippy xxx

Hdee profile image

I am so sorry to read that you and your mum are at this point and are having to say goodbye, I know your mum will still feel your love and even though it is so excruciatingly difficult, how amazing that she has you to help her pass on… what a comfort that must be for her and what a blessing - this is a true testament to the love that you both have shared in this life and love continues beyond the next step. I’m sending you prayers and hugs, we are all with you as fellow journeyers xxxx

Hiking13 profile image

oh Kim my heart is breaking and there are simply no words. Like others have said I told my lovely husband that it was ok for him to go and that I would be ok and that he wasn’t to worry about me and that he could let go . It still took him a while as he was a strong person and your dear momma is also a very strong person as are you. This is so hard for you but you will get through and your momma is so proud of all you have done for her. Keep talking to her and keep doing what you are doing you have people all over the world thinking of you both on this the most difficult of journeys. Sending so much love Sarahxxx

Katiebow profile image

Thinking of you both at this difficult time. Your dear Momma has done her fighting now and will be grateful that the end of her life is peaceful and pain free supported by her beloved daughter. Even when we know the inevitable is imminent it doesn’t make it any easier to face the fact we are going to lose the person so close to our heart. Sending love. Kate xxx

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LuisRodicioRodicio profile image

Prayers and a big hug.


Martina_MP profile image

Prayers for a peaceful release for your beloved. Thank you for sharing and for showing many of us the way … the way of love, most of all.

Wigwambob profile image

We are all thinking of you and your lovely Mum. Wishing you strength and sending big hugs.Sylvie.

AJK2001 profile image

Keep talking & sharing memories with your dearest Mom. take comfort that she is comfortable and at home surrounded by love. It is 3 years on 5th since my Mum passed away and knowing Mum was in familiar surroundings with people she loved gave me a certain peace. I hope you may find the same. Love & hugs xxx

messier profile image

prayers for you and your family Kim. Take heart that she no longer needs bodily nourishment, and is at peace.

Heady profile image

Oh Kim, what can any of us say. Of course we are praying for you and your Mum.

As others have said, give her permission to let go, reassure her you will be OK and that you love her. My last words to Steve were, “ let go, I love you”, he then breathed his last. A moment I will always treasure.

I pray that your Mums passing will be peaceful. You are both in my thoughts.

Sending very large hug and much love

Lots of love


Runner333 profile image

Dear Kim, You and your Mum are so loved by all of us! Praying for a peaceful journey’s end. You and your Mum are amazing together. Can you remember all the things you both have done together hand in hand? You are a wonderful daughter and your Mum is so proud of you. Love from Linda

Dance1955 profile image

I’m so sorry she looks so peaceful

You have been a wonderful daughter bless you and hugs xx

Perrywrinkle profile image

Kim, your words touch my heart. I pray for comfort for you and a peace from knowing you're there and making sure she does not pass alone. God bless you

Stephanielayell82 profile image

Thoughts and prayers for you both!!

roadrace profile image

Sending prayers!! 🙏 🙏 🙏

doglington profile image

So sorry Kim. I remember it so well. Wanting her suffering to end but not wanting to lose them. It's so bleak. Glad she is free of pain. Love and hugs from Jean xxx

Jimjam22 profile image

Sending love yo all xx

Nanny857 profile image

Dearest Kim, I feel for you so much as you are exactly where I was 3 years ago. It’s said that hearing is the last sense to go so keep talking to your lovely momma. Praying she remains comfortable pain free and serene passing. Thought and prayers are with you.

Sending a big hug and lots of love


Northstar1 profile image

Oh Kim it's such a heartbreaking time a conflicting time. Your mum is settled, pain free, loved so so much. You are all in my prayers love to you all xx

ncgardener799 profile image

Kim, your photo journaling has brought smiles to our faces through the years-The smile of your Mom has lifted my spirits on the difficult days, your spirit and the joy you have in your heart radiates out to all of us. Wrapping my arms around you as you watch and wait-Pat xoxo

LFG3 profile image

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your dear Mom.

Thank you for sharing your journey on this forum, showing us all how to be kind and compassionate caregivers to our loved one. The love you and your Mom share is so apparent in every post. She will never be far away, as she will always live on in your heart. ❤️

bichonbear1 profile image

My thoughts and prayers are with you, stay strong

Troubleandstrife profile image

I’m so sorry. I feel this. I did this. You can too. It’s brutal. My husband waited for me to leave the room. He was too polite to die in front of me. I’m sorry.

MarieFW profile image

This was me with my Mom 3 weeks ago. Heartbreaking. Just want to say how immensely I feel your pain. ❤

Bhill46 profile image

Joining with everyone who is in this support system in praying for you and your mother, to whom you’ve shown such deep love, understanding, and compassion whilst maintaining her dignity and her sense of herself as being your mother. Do keep talking and singing the hymns and songs she loves to her - she hears you and will feel your love. Does she have a cozy hot water bottle on or next to her tummy? This was my British grandmother’s primary comfort aide. Much better than even the best heating pad! Hoping Hospice is there to support her, you and your family while your mother gradually lets go of this earthly life and enters into the Light. She will always be part of you, and you of her. I hope you will be comforted in the days, months and years to come knowing that you gave your Mum the best, loving care any person could ever hope for. Thank you for sharing your long journey together so openly with all of us.

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