I am sorry for the long absence.
Essentially Liz sustained some bruises and accused a member of staff of harming her. That was five months ago. The Social Services put restrictions on both the staff and myself whilst they investigated it. I had seen Liz that day and so had 'opportunity' and was swept up in the net.
The Police investigated and found no admissible evidence. That was two months ago. The Social Services have dragged their feet for five months. I suspect that they felt that going slowly meant Liz was safe whilst they tried to work out what to do.
Yesterday, with the help of a Solicitors letter laying out the law and the limitations of their powers they finally closed the investigation. 'Insufficient evidence.'
Some weeks back Liz had said, to me, that she had injured herself. My dear lovely was so frustrated that I would not take her home to be cared for there. My heart goes out to her. PSP is so cruel.
I could not cope with being on the forum because I was feeling so low at being subjected to investigations along with the staff at the home. Yet I had to be there for her no matter what. I have also read far more policy and law than is good for one. It has been quite frightening and at times most intense.
The Social Services were bullish and when I challenged them on the law they said I was wrong and that their legal department had advised them. They finally quoted the law they were relying on and reading what they sent to me they could not have been to their legal department. One quote was from a completely irrelevant law.
Well, we got it all stopped and though feeling rather mauled Liz and I are out of the tunnel. This process has been very hard on her too.
I am writing some of the detail here as one solicitor who specialises in the laws around Adult Care told me that it is fairly common for Social Services to ignore the law in this area knowing that it is very expensive for the carer to take them to the Court of Protection.
So if anyone else finds themselves in this position I am happy comment and, or to pass them on to the solicitor I used. I telephoned at least a dozen before I found one who really knew their stuff. He has been the lead solicitor for Adult Social Care Law in four different Counties. He is good and it only took one letter to stop the Social Services taking complete control unlawfully.
On a sadder note Liz is at the stage where she can only manage a few hand squeezes to communicate. She tires quickly and and ceases squeezing. We now have palliative care on standby, but not yet activated.
We have some time left to share and Liz has asked me to read poetry to her on my visits.
I have started writing a book based on research which I began when I was twenty-one and which I have continued throughout my whole life. I will probably have to pay people to take a copy, but it has been a life long passion. So I will try to have a presence here, but not as before.
Warmly to all and thanks for being there.
P.S. Thanks for the P.M''s from some - They were very supportive.