Hi all we keep on pushing Charlie today I’m taking him for physical therapy I prey they can help. It’s getting harder for me to take care of him. We do live with our kids but they work during the day, if I could convince him we need a nurse but he only wants me to help. Anyone have advise?
Thanks
Marge
Marge I think you need to get help in order to be able to look after Charlie, you will burn yourself out otherwise, try and make him see this, also maybe the children could talk to him. Xxxx
Marge - You might just have to say that you need help, but will get rid of anyone who he does not like, or something.
He will need carers at some point and he will adjust. So there is no point in putting it off.
It's a difficult step...
Warmly
Kevin
PS Good luck with the physical therapy... Most folk finds it helps preserve function. 
Hi marge52
My sister suggested I get help, I was sooo frustrated and unrated with mike it was hurting us both. We use agency ( we’re in the US and there are plenty to choose from) recommended by other care givers. I told Mike that if we didn’t like the person they sent, we would change. Our caregiver (not a registered nurse) is lovely. She gives Mike his shower, chivvies him onto doing his exercises and makes him laugh. I get two free mornings a week and it’s working out fine. I agree you need to get Charlie to accept the idea, but you need to think of your own health, mental and physical too. Otherwise you won’t be able to take care of him. Good luck😊
Caro
Yes get help, I tried to cope on my own, had a broken wrist and John has ended up in a home which I hate. It us hard having strangers in your house but just try it. Pauline xx
To reach the same conclusion as Pauline and give up getting everything without help I had to go through the operating room because of a shoulder break due to a fall. (To go in a hurry and stressed).
Marg52 seeks help !!
Hi Marg52!
In our case we dedicate about 2 to 2 hours and a half to do programmed physical exercises.
This work, together with personal grooming, dress and walk, is done by a contracted person who spends 5 hours / day, in the mornings, from Monday to Friday.
Delegating is a facet so that the main caregiver does not fall into exhaustion and discouragement.
Thank you all for your advice my daughter is looking into getting me some help, I just feel guilty is that normal?
Marge
I feel guilty all the time but Ido try and visit John every day to feed him his lunch. The troubleis I only spend just over a couple of hours there as I know I have to start and build a bit of a life for myself as I had given everything up.Everyone says do not feel guilty but you cannot help it . Good luck Pauline xx
Hi Marge, I am at this stage too trying to convince oh that i need help and maybe some day care might be an answer but still working on it, wish you the best with this.
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