Birthday

[Escada29]

Hi all its been my birthday today, not the best of birthdays I must admit. Am just sitting here thinking how sad it is that your own partner cannot wish you a happy birthday. I know he can't and I told myself that but it still hurts a bit. I have not enjoyed this day infact I have felt very stressed and tired . Bedtime soon x

[Kevin_1]

Hi Escada

Is your partner still in the Nursing Home?

PSP is hard. We loose our partner little by little.

How are they doing ?

Wishing you a happy birthday and good times still with you partner.

Waiving and understanding.

It's hard.

x

[Escada29 in reply to Kevin_1]

Hi respite is over and J was pleased to come home. He will be back there tomorrow for daycare. I am going to see my family and I know tomorrow will be better. x

[Kevin_1 in reply to Escada29]

Tomorrow will be better.

We had a bad day today... Its the way it goes... I too live for the better day, which I know will come tomorrow.

Wishing you both the best

x

[jillannf6 in reply to Kevin_1]

oi agrr ee k and liz

loljillxxxx

[Marie_14]

Oh Escada. Happy birthday to you! Hope you have time to sit down and enjoy life for a few minutes. We have all been there and some will be forever now we are alone. I am so sorry as it's just one of many painful things we have to learn to live with. Please remember it's not his fault? If he could he would have got you a birthday card and a present. Big hugs to you dear one.

Marie x

[doglington]

Happy Birthday.

Know exactly how it feels.

Hope its better tomorrow.

love, Jean x

[Katiebow]

Happy birthing Escada, it's so upsetting isn't it, especially when friends have meals out or weekends away as a birthday treat. We have to make do with a card we bought and got them to make a mark or zero, take your pick! I try not to get upset or bitter but it is hard to take. The best thing about this site is that we can share those feelings of heartbreak and disappointment that we can't with others, it is a very deep emotion we feel and most others can't possibly understand. Sending my hugs and birthday wishes.

Love Kate xxx

[Heady]

I know exactly how you feel. How about taking him out tomorrow, to buy your present. Get something really nice, very pretty and exactly what you want. If he is still able, get him to use his credit card. You will be surprised how great that feels for both of you. Surprises are nice, but not essential. I had my best presents in those final years. Steve didn't have a clue what to buy me ever, so the stress of having to buy a present that he knew I probably wouldn't like, was taken from him, which he was very grateful!

Happy birthday to you!

Lots of love

Anne

[abirke]

Escada you knwo he loves you but who cares, right you want him RIGHT THERE with you.....I sent you a birthday post....I hope at least you get some rest. Tuesday will have been B's 57th birthday.....oh my.....this will be a hard one. .....

AVB

[Auddonz in reply to abirke]

abirke, yes that will be hard. April 12th was our 58th anniversary and it was a tough day

AUDREY (aka auddonz)

[abirke in reply to Auddonz]

Yah ours is coming up on June 6th....31 years!

everything all at once....I'ts like he just died....it's already been two months!

AVB

[Auddonz in reply to abirke]

It stinks abirke His birthday is June 8th. Would have been 80. That is going to be a hard one as well.

Audrey

[abirke in reply to Auddonz]

deep breaths and good thoughts and alot of tears

[Auddonz in reply to abirke]

Yes, I am sure

[NannaB]

I kept the last card C was able to write on his own. It was very spidery but his own writing. Every birthday for the last few years of his life I showed him the card and told him we still loved each other the same as we always had. He'd give my hands a squeeze and I'd kiss him and thank him for all the lovely birthdays he had given me. I did the same on all the last few Valentine's Days and put up the one I gave him a few years before. That way I thought he wouldn't feel so bad about not getting me a new one.

I hope you have a good time with your family tomorrow.

XxxX

[Yvonneandgeorge]

Happy birthday xxxx

[jillannf6 in reply to Yvonneandgeorge]

i agree e yvonne

lo l jill

xxxxxxx

[Karynleitner]

Happy Birthday. It is so hard to see someone next to you and not really feel his real presence or love. Sometimes I worry that my husband is much more aware then he is able to show . That breaks my heart too. Yet, I feel just like you. Sad, disappointed and alone. Somedays are just not good. I hope tomorrow is wonderful for you. Treat yourself to something fun. We are all behind you !

[york]

Awh bless you and may I send you belated birthday wishes. I'm sure your family will spoil you 🎂🎁

[Dolka]

Happy birthday!

This cruel disease robs us all of so much.

I've got a big birthday next week and can't help thinking how celebrations would have been different without PSP.

However, my hope is that it'll be the best day it can be.

Wishing you all the best and I hope you had a good sleep

Much love

K

[Beverley52]

Hello. i don't know the ins and outs of PSP. My partner had MSA. That took away his ability to function for himself, but left with with a working mind, albeit a little different at times. So yes birthdays became hard. He had a niece who was more of a daughter. And every year he arranged with her to sort out flowers, and cards and chocolates. First, she would get them, and he would hop on his little scooter and go up the road to her to collect them. Then, as his mobility declined, she would drive to the house, and he'd sneak out to her. Then, she'd hop over the wall, so that I didn't see her, and leave them at the door for him. Eventually, of course she had to bring them into the house, but he never missed. Mother's Day, Christmas, birthdays, and occasionally, just because. He died a few days before xmas. We hadn't seen Catherine for a few days, as she was pregnant, and apparently he didn't want to put too much on her. 2 days after he died, his carer, a wonderful wonderful girl, called to ask if it was ok to come see me. She arrived, with flowers and a card, and chocolates, saying that she hadn't known what to do. Billy had planned it all with her a few days earlier, as she showered him. And she was supposed to leave them with him, on Thursday, the day I went out and left them together for a couple of hours. That was the day he died.

Needless to say we both cried a lot. And I loved him more.

My point is, if your partner is at all able, anywhere in his being, he will be wishing you the very happiest of birthdays, and if he were at all able, he would show you how much he loves, and appreciates you. Life is dammed hard, especially for us carers. And it is often the small things that are huge. I hope you take heart from my personal story. And I hope you were able to enjoy your birthday. Happy birthday, to you, and all the carers out there.

Hugs Beverley.x

[easterncedar in reply to Beverley52]

Wow. That's a beautiful love story, Beverley. What a thoughtful, sweet man. A rare gem. I'm very sorry for your loss.

My sweetheart liked to buy me flowers and flowering plants, and I know it pained him when he couldn't any longer remember my birthday or shop for Christmas. I should have helped him do it. One potted azalea has been blooming now for 5 months, and I do often make sure he sees the flowers and knows his gift is still going on, making me happy.

Love to you, ec

[JantheNana in reply to easterncedar]

We owned and operated a florist for 35 yrs and the last thing I wanted to receive during that time was flowers.However,since he is unable to shop for gifts anymore,he picks up the phone(most phone calls he cannot manage by himself,but this one he can,the shop still has the same phone # we had all those years) and orders flowers.I know he made a phone call yesterday to order Mother's Day flowers.These are the most treasured gifts I have ever received as I know they are from the heart!

[Duffers]

Hi escada. I think these are the things we miss out on once our partners have reached a certain point. They don't mean it and don't even know they're doing it but it doesn't take away the sadness. I compensate by buying hubby ger a card for me lol and splurging out on a lovely present for myself. I always choose the best. Dont be sad escada although writing this I feel a tear coming on for you and I think myself as well. God bless and tomorrow is another day. Marie

[Satt2015]

Happy birthday Escada

I hope your day has improved

🎂🎂🎂🎂🎂 x

[Escada29 in reply to Satt2015]

Thank you today has been very nice xx

[JantheNana]

Escada,Happy Birthday from a fellow caregiver!