Knackered: Hi everyone been really P??D off... - PSP Association

PSP Association

9,262 members11,356 posts

Knackered

17 Replies

Hi everyone been really P??D off last few weeks. Alan just doesn't seem to want to do anything given up saying even one word needs and hand signals just this annoying noise. Think now totally incontinent becoming more difficult not for me but very frustrating. He was only diagnosed less than three years ago. Symptoms change every week not always good. That's it had my moan off to bed now before my man wakes me at 3ish in the morning

Thanks all have lovely Xmas Nette

17 Replies
peterjones profile image
peterjones

hi nertte don't give in mate just keep plodding along like the rest of us mate a very merry xmas to you as well matey peter jones q.l.d. Australia psp sufferer and regards te your other half for me see yer mates take care

Julieandrog profile image
Julieandrog

No words can make this crap any better! Have the best chrimbo you can my darling, in some ways as they worsen the caring gets easier I found, you become numb to it all.

Have a gin , later though!

Julie x

in reply to Julieandrog

Always feel better after a moan and don't worry have a brandy nearly every night after putting him to bed

Thanks Nette

abirke profile image
abirke in reply to Julieandrog

hmmmm interesting observation

PUTLAND profile image
PUTLAND

Endless and I understand no conversation and just the annoying noise. Its so hard for both of you. I would love to know what my husband is thinking at times. He has no interest in anything. I came in excited yesterday with some new clothes I got for him and he was not interested. You do adjust because you have to and get on with it. Try and have a little time to yourself. xxxx

Chrisabo profile image
Chrisabo

Merry Christmas to you as well Nette.

Katiebow profile image
Katiebow

I think the communication thing is probably the hardest thing to deal with especially when you have made an effort to do or get something that should please them. It makes you feel like not bothering but I guess you just don't know what's going on in their mind. Hard for both parties I think.

Hope you feel a bit better after a rant, hard isn't it?

Love and hugs

Kate xxx

doglington profile image
doglington

I find the lack of communication really hard. Sometimes I keep repeating the question and he will answer. I sometimes feel he thinks he has answered. Then he still has times when he can talk and tell me he loves me. It will be hard when he can no longer do that.

Happy Christmas.

love, Jean x

marph profile image
marph

Oh yes. A can tell me he loves me--at least that is what I think he is saying. That will be very hard to lose along with all the losses.

Martha

marph profile image
marph

Oh boy!! Can I relate to the annoying noise. A does a guttural rhythmic sound that drives me crazy. There are times I know he can control it because I can softly talk him into doing it slower and softer until it stops. Other times I feel it is a obsessive/compulsive thing that he can't control. Other times when he is really p-----d with me he makes it even louder. Is this common with PSP? Do many other sufferers do it?

peterjones profile image
peterjones in reply to marph

HI MARPH WELL MATEY I THINK THAT YOU WILL FIND ITS SOMETHING HE CANT CONTROL UNLESS THERE IS A WORD OF COMMAND THAT GOES W ITH IT EXAMPLE IF IM WALKING LONG OK AND THEN FREEZE UP I SAY TO MYSELF GO YOU SILLY OLD BUGGER AND OFF I GO OR IF I AM WALKING UP THE HALLWAY TALKING TO MY WIFE SHE WILL SHOUT OUT TO ME I CANT HEAR YOU TALKING TO THE WALLS WHICH IS RIGHT COME BACK AND TALK TO ME THIS TIME SO I POTTER BACK HAVING GARBLED MUTTER TO MYSELF BUT SO FAR ITS BEEN WORKING LIKE IT OR NOT FROM MY POINT OF VIEW MATE WHETEHER THIS WORKS FOR EVEYONE I DO NOT KNOW BUT ANYTHING WORTH A TRY

SEE YER MATE PETER JONES Q.L.D. AUSTRALIA PSP SUFFERER

marph profile image
marph in reply to peterjones

Thanks for your point of view. I will try it. Sometimes he truly can't stop. Tonight he is so tired I am hoping he will be quiet.

Cuttercat profile image
Cuttercat

Dear Nette,

Copy cat that is. Same with Charles. 4 year diagnosis. Doesn't talk unless it's with the GoTalk machine, a lifesaver. Sleeps 14 - 18 hours a day. Incontinent. Welcome to our world.

And yesterday I came down with a cold and am fearful I'll pass it on to Charles which would be terrible because of swallowing issues.

Love,

Cuttercat

doglington profile image
doglington in reply to Cuttercat

I know. I've just finished with a bad cold and am hoping he doesn't get it. It was also hard caring for him when I really just wanted my bed.

I don't know what would happen if I was really ill.

love, Jean x

Cuttercat profile image
Cuttercat in reply to doglington

Those thoughts go through my mind as well. I just pray I make it through this ordeal. I'd rather have him here with me but alas we all are destined for sorrow.

Cuttercat

pzagy profile image
pzagy

Please tell me you have at least some help with Alan, you will wear yourself out to the point that you will nee help for you!

As for the groaning annoying noise, I hear ot to with my mother in law, the only way to calm her down is when I hold her hand and make her concentrate on prayer. But sadly, that is also not working as well as it used to....

Boyce3600 profile image
Boyce3600

I know your post was 2 years ago but I am just going thru some here and looking for a diagnosis for my husband. May I ask ur curcumstance now.. March 2019? God Bless you and yours.

You may also like...

Hospice again! Hooray.

six week course, (once a week) but if he responds, they will let him stay for the full 12 weeks. I...

Just one of \"those\" days again!

Sorry folks, but I feel a little better now for having got that off my chest. God Bless everyone...

Really annoyed & upset.

I need to let off steam I'm afraid. We've had some issues with the care agency and getting no where

Advanced symptoms after a bug

in law was diagnosed about 3 years ago, the last week she got a stomach bug and since then she has...

Just having a bad time of it.

is now into his 11th year is definitely sliding,he only commucates by thumbs up or hand wave off and