Why oh why are some people a little bit thick. We have been haveing a young carer doing (double carer) visit in the evening to get Brian ready and into bed. At least once a week she has been told that Brian can't stand for a long time. (Enough time to wash bottom and repad). She has got the idea in her head that she has to wipe his bottom half a dozen times every time she touches back end it makes him poo. So she has to wipe again. (Get the picture) till in the end the 2nd carer is straining to hold him up because his knees are buckling and he is almost collapsed onto the floor then she happily washes drys and creams him. In the end sunday i shouted at her to get her finger out because her dolly daydream ways are not fair to 2nd carer or Brian. The carer that was working with her thanked me for saying something. Do they not understand that if someone has no bowel control they poo when they struggle to stand and stimulating that area will make them pass a little bit more.
So tonight before she started i said 1-2 wipes wash and go. Even she had to admit it was so much easier all round. Yes that is a chear you hear. I sometimes think i expect to much out of the people paid to help care for my loved one. Janexx