I'm 72, British and live in Germany in a long-term relationship. I recently had surgery to alleviate urine retention that occurred suddenly without warning due to a blockage in my extremely enlarged prostate - fortunately benign. My prostate was about 6 times larger than normal so the TURP method (through the penis) could not be used About 80% of the volume of the prostate was surgically removed leaving the outer shell of the prostate thus reducing the danger of damage to the nerve bundles responsible for erections. Tissue removed was shown to be cancer-free!
I now pee like a 25 year old and am continent. My partner and I enjoyed an active sex life prior to surgery with no ED problems. I typically awoke with regular morning wood. I now suffer from ED although I can still have an orgasm. I jelq and watch porn which is partially stimulating but not enough for penetrative sex. My partner who is about 20 years younger is remarkably understanding saying there are more important things than sex and you've enjoyed a long and active sex life and I should be happy that I'm healthy and have no problems peeing!
I've tried Viagra and Cialis without notable effect so now plan to try a pump.
I feel a bit embarrassed appearing on this forum as my ailments pale in significance compared with all of you prostate cancer survivors. However I am hoping to learn from your experiences with ED.
Photo shows the post-op scar held together with staples