how to tell work i need advice!!!

[tigger888]

i have worked for my employer for a few yrs now we get on really well, i work in a pub, they have just gave a managers job and inc living accommodation do i tell them asap or wait till after my 1st scan as i had a miscarriage earlier in the yr??

[Suzy890]

What did you do last time? Xx

[tigger888 in reply to Suzy890]

I told them straight away, but I was just a normal member of staff, they are leaving me in charge and I'm ment 2 move in soon! X

[Suzy890]

Well im supervisor at work and boss is also my landlord, but I told him first time round. Im glad I did cos when I miscarried he was alot more understanding. Ive told him straigjt away this time again, and luckily hes let me cut my hours down so I can rest a bit more. He cant really say anything, and if he does then hes breaking the law. Dont stress, just be honest xx

[rmh2012]

Normally I'd advise waiting until after your scan, but that works best when working for a larger business where you'd rather not have everyone know, particularly in case something goes wrong.

For a small business and your particular circumstances, I'd kinda agree with Suzy890, upfront honesty will probably work best.

Did they respond in a supportive way last time? Your position may have changed, but surely if they were supportive last time, they'll be supportive this time.

Having said all of that, I'm sure that if you decide to wait until your first scan, and given your circumstances, I'm sure your boss will understand your being reluctant to say anything until you knew everything was on track and past the high risk stage.

R x

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Hi Tigger,

We've got a few tips and some information about telling your employer on the NCT website, have a look! nct.org.uk/pregnancy/how-do...

Hope it goes well!

Alice x