I need some advice

[Big_mum]

Had abdominal pain at week16 of my pregnancy, went to A&E and was well treated by all the team , I only remembered one name Dr Solomon and a beautiful lady gynaecologist, when it was time for her to close she came to me and told me everything will be fine ,after 3 days I was transferd to the maternity ward and will never forget what I went through. one lady came to introduce her self as my midwife and I politely asked her if she can explain to me what is wrong with me because this is my first pregnancy and she replied AM NOT UR DOCTOR, I was dehydrated to the point my lips begun to bleed ,they only come to give u Ur drip ,pain killers and walk awayDue to what I went through am afraid to give birth at Croydon uni ..., am afraid of meeting the midwives again .I could hear her saying Ur blood is not good and u think u are well all because she saw AS, thanks to one young Dr. Who came to tell me enough of the drips,I stood by what she said and started rejecting the pain killers,went on Google to search what was wrong with me, did some things and the pain vanished,am in week 21 and am doing very well with no pain .but am soo afraid of what will happen in week 40

Please remember me in Ur prayers because am afraid of giving birth to my little angel because of what I went through

[Stargirl26]

Hi there,

So sorry to hear you had a bad experience, I can understand your trepidation moving forward now. Definitely talk about this with your community midwife in your next appointment and get them to make a note in your green book that you had a bad experience at the hospital.

You must always ask questions about your care and your baby and if you’re not happy, ask straight away to speak to a dr/another midwife. Courtesy costa nothing and reassuring a 1st time mum should be a priority ❤️

[Big_mum in reply to Stargirl26]

Thank soo much I really appreciate your advice,

[Seb9]

Do you have someone going with you to the hospital who can advocate for you if you are feeling nervous or not able to advocate for yourself. I found hypnobirthing books helped me to stay calm and to advocate for how I was my birth journey to go.

You can make a complaint about the hospital by contacting PALS and speaking to them about the treatment you've received too. This could help you get better treatment and for future mums too.

And I agree with Stargirl, appeal to your community midwife at your next appointment and explain your worries about your treatment and your birth and they may be able to reassure you and help you plan your birth. Good luck x

[Big_mum in reply to Seb9]

I always go alone

[Seb9 in reply to Big_mum]

There are ways to have someone advocate on your behalf if you need support with your appointments. There may be help that you can get from charities or through your local council. The NHS has a guide on getting someone to speak up for you.

nhs.uk/conditions/social-ca...

You could also ask at your local GP or midwife services for help or guidance to get an advocate put on place for you to attend and speak on your behalf.

There's also lots of information on the NHS website about your pregnancy journey, your appointments and what to expect. You might want to have a look and get an understanding of what happens through your journey, so that if you don't feel like it's happening correctly you can ask for the care that you need.

nhs.uk/pregnancy/your-pregn...

There's also some charities or there to help with pregnancy and birth that might be worth contacting to see if they can offer you more specialised abs local advice.

birthcompanions.org.uk/page...

Good luck with it all x

[Big_mum in reply to Seb9]

Thank you, I will definitely speak to them about it because that is where I will deliver my baby and am soo afraid

[Eggfreezer2015]

I’m not sure if this is possible but are you able to refer yourself to another hospital for delivery if you are uncomfortable with this one? Perhaps you can look into this and seek advice/support from your GP.

[Big_mum in reply to Eggfreezer2015]

Will ask my midwife in my next appointmentThank you soo much ❤️

[Rezeva]

It's not quite clear from your question if you actually have a mid/high risk pregnancy or if you just got a bit dehydrated. In case that there is no risk pregnancy, you should be able to choose a homebirth or midwifery unit rather than hospital.

All the best.