abortion

[classica]

am a girl of 19 yrs old and i got pregnant am stressed alot n everybody around me is telling me to abort am also worried because my mum has high blood pressure if she gets to know this it will kill her i dont know what to do and i need advice please help

[Ally669]

Only you can make the decision. It doesn’t matter what anybody else thinks. If you want to have the baby and feel that you are capable of providing with the support of your baby’s father/your family and friends , then keeping it would be a good option for you. If you don’t want to have a baby yet, an abortion might be a better option. Just remember it’s your decision to make and you need the make that decision sooner rather than later. The longer you leave it, the harder it gets. Good luck!

[Iqs97]

Please don’t listen to NO ONE, I was 20 when I got pregnant and was told if I told get rid of it my parents would kill me, I stuck by the decision to keep it and helped people understand my emotions and now I have a little man 20 months who literally brings out the joy in me. To think I even considered abortion runs shivers up my spine. There’s loads of help available for pregnant women and you’re not alone ever!

[emlou2906]

In all honesty it is your choice what you want to do I was young whn I had my 1st id just turned 20 it can be hard but also its lovely as we've grown together you need to make your own decision and not listen to others it won't be their life it will be yours ...but I do think you should sit and talk to your mum about it she might feel more hurt if you didn't tell her and also she can support you with any decision you make I hope it goes well and wish you all.the best with any decision you make x

[Sprog]

Your mum might be upset and whilst she may have her own opinion of what she thinks you should do I’m sure she’ll support you whatever you decide.

This needs to be your decision. There is no perfect time. Do what you think is best for your child and you. x

[Bailey135]

It’s your choice nobody else’s. Yes it will be difficult but it’s doable if you want to keep it. Abortions or so I’m told have a long term effect on mums who weren’t sure if it was the right choice, you can regret an abortion but once you’ve got that baby I doubt you’d regret he or she. And your mum might have high bp but this news won’t kill her x

[Laurendawn]

You just need to think about what you want and no one else. I had an abortion when I was 18 and I’ve never regretted it for a minute - but I knew it was the right thing for me and I wasn’t able or ready to raise a child. If you’re unsure because part of you wants to keep the baby, I’m not sure you would see it the same way and you don’t want to live to regret the decision that you made. What is it making the decision so hard in particular, is it what other people think, or is it that you don’t know how you feel about being pregnant? I hope you’re ok xx

[Jodiieexo]

It’s a decision only you can make, take your time and in your heart you will know. Neither is the ‘wrong’ option but you definitely need to take your time to think it through! I have had two abortions one when I was 15 and one at 23, hard choices at the time but I know that it was right for me. I’m now 28 and 12 weeks pregnant and couldn’t be happier and know that it’s my time! I have traveled, done what I wanted to do and got whatever out my system as they say, I have matured and I now feel ready for this new chapter. Wishing you all the best xo

[Xx332xx]

I got pregnant at 16 and had an abortion I’m now almost 21 and I regret my decision and constantly think about it. I made the choice on my own behalf but it’s hard and as I said I regret it and being young everything is confusing especially with the whole stigma around teen mums but there’s nothing wrong with it at all. Just make sure you make the right decision for you

[amazed]

I hope I'm not too late to come in here but I kept my son at 18 years old and I have never, for one second regretted my decision. If you don't want an abortion then don't have an abortion.

My mother took me to the Mary Stopes Clinic and having seen the tiny bean growing inside of me, I told them I wanted to keep my baby.

My father told me that I should put him up for adoption when I was 8 months pregnant and I said, Dad, this is your eldest grand child and you will love him and you would hate for him to know you said this when he's older.

Sure enough now, 21 years later and with 3 other children aged 13, 5 and 3, he is indeed, their oldest grand child and they love him like the others.

If you think you can do it then go for it. But ask for help when you need it, you'll find others in the same position and older, understanding mums who help you through. My eldest sons father was really abusive but we've been free of him for 16 years now. Life is good.

Don't let others opinions make up your mind. Sending you Love and Strength x

[sweetchild1989]

It's got to be your own decision, kids dont ruin your life at all, I was 17 when I had my first and everyone was saying the same things to me, it's going to ruin my life ect but I didnt listen she is now 14 years old and she is my best friend, we may have our arguments but that's to be expected.

I had an abortion a year after I had my daughter, due to circumstance and things that happend i had to have it done and I have lived with this my whole and it is horrible to live with, I never forget the day I had it done i remember it like it was yesterday, So please before you make any decisions please take your time to think about it, I hope I'm not to late with my comment and I hope everything works out for you what every you have decided x